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How helpful is a diagnosis?

NAS74768

Hello, Me and my partner have been together for 10 years and I have always known he is "on the spectrum" (not sure if that's the correct term). Over the past few years things have been getting progressively worse, he can't keep a job more than 3 months because of his behaviour and the frustration caused by this has made him become very difficult to live with. I love him to pieces but I'm at my wit's end and don't know what to do. I know suggesting seeing a GP will cause him a lot of distress and upset so I'm not sure if it's worth the problems it will cause. Does getting a diagnosis help in any way? What are the benefits of getting a diagnosis? 

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  • Does he know he is on the spectrum?

    I found that realising I was autistic was immensely beneficial in understanding (and forgiving myself for) many incidents in my past. It is also shaping my plans for a more autistic compatible future. Amongst other things, it means I can benefit from reading about the experiences of other autistics and learn from it.

    I have my official assessment in a few weeks - I don't think there will be any major benefits for me from the official diagnosis, but I want to be sure it's not some other condition that I have (or have as well as).

  • in reply to moon

    Hi, thanks for replying. I'm not sure he believes it, he knows that it has been discussed (his parents, friends and then me) but I'm not sure he believes it. He feels that the world is wrong and he's right so everyone else should change. The issue is he has to live in this world and the two realities are clashing. He gets fired from jobs constantly, upsets friends and alienates people. It seems to be getting worse too. Any tips on how to help him become more open to seeking help? 

  • in reply to NAS74768

    Could you convice him to do some online autism tests such as AQ-50 & RAADS? I used https://www.aspietests.org/ (not sure if it's the best though).

    It's anonymous (the username fields etc. are totally optional).

    These tests are only indicative, but if he scores highly it might prompt him to read up a little on common autism traits and hopefully get the "oh *** - thats me" realisation. Or perhaps he might google "youtube aspergers" - there are loads of videos of people describing what Autism is like for them.

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