I've worked as an IT Project Manager for the last six years and have been in other IT or Finance roles for the twenty+ years beforehand. I feel like I've been having communication issues throughout. I quit my last job after getting grief from senior managers for things they hadn't done. And in my job before, I upset quite a few people (never meant to) and one person quit because of me - I was trying to protect her by telling her that management were getting rid of people because of not following certain expectations, but she took it as me saying I would.
I've moved away from senior positions into a more junior position as of last week after not working for 7 months. I have had some conflict with my new boss as she's been giving me work different to what I was appointed to do and pulled me in front of management for being difficult and saying I didn't want to do certain things. I've said I'm happy to help with anything, but the job we discussed and I was appointed for is X and that's what I'm expecting to do.
Since then, she's been telling me that I'm short and rude with people, I've upset lots of people and I need to improve.
Today she said that when I met my colleagues, I got under my desk (I'm working from home) and they felt that was strange and she asked if I thought it was rude. My response was that maybe I leaned down to plug in my laptop, but I don't remember. I then got accused of claiming that the two people were lying about me getting under my desk. I said it sounds like you're saying that I got under my desk and stayed there, which would be weird, so I don't know how to respond to that.
Anyone else have this type of crap? I accept that maybe I committed a social faux par, but is it really that big a deal?
Also. I completed a HR induction health questionnaire yesterday and didn't disclose that I have an Asperger's diagnosis. With the issues I've been having, I felt that it might be used against me as I didn't say about it before. I'm still getting used to it and don't feel that it is anyone's business unless I choose to disclose it.
If I tell my new employer can they get rid of me for being Asperger's or for not disclosing it in my interviews or on the HR form?
