Aspergers syndrom is a curse

Aspergers is a curse. These are the unfortunate people who find they are different from the usual person found everywhere. Aspergers people cannot fit in with normal society. For that reason, they are excluded from being with friends and peers from an early age. They are unable to develop socially like their peers, so get left further behind. The inability to fit in and the differentness is made worse by the time they become adults. Many parents are simply embarassed having that child who is 'different', cannot do sports as others, comes across as weird. Besides with their mannerisms, their approaches to things, the way they speak in their monotone voice just annoys everyone else. With other handicaps - a person in a wheelchair can be accepted. A person with mental impairments lives with similar others in their colonies. An aspie cannot be recognized in the same way. Appears as normal till things start becoming apparrent.  He or she is not ill enough to qualify for disability allowances nor PIP. Morever the people who determine these, will never recognize an aspie and their needs purely because they are not in it. We talk about some high value people or stars being aspies, but statistically the typical aspie is most likely to be unemployed, living on their own and few friends. They maybe tried having a partner, but that failed. The partner soon realizes what they are yoked with and dump them.  Coming to job  interviews, their differentness is soon apparrent, they are deemed not to fit in the company, so do not get the job. Psychometric tests also detect aspies because the tests have questions which fish out the traits that aspies have like being loyal, preferring to work on their own, being organized, truth speaking.The tests fish out the things that an aspie cannot do and conclude that the person is not fit for the job based on abilities like being able to work under pressure or multi-task.

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  • If your going to get all dramatic and call it a 'curse', I think I'd have to say that it's incorrect. Lack of awareness would be the 'curse'. I could have made huge changes  that would have made things better for myself if I'd known sooner. If the wider community had more awareness,  people with mental health issues, not just those on the spectrum, would have an improved quality of life. It's true that statistics paint a bleak picture for us. But it doesn't mean that our lives are any worse than others. Everyone has challenges. Hell,  I have a cousin who used to get picked on because of his red hair. I'd love someone to explain that one to me! 

    We could spend our lives complaining about something that just is, or we can learn to look passed it. Yes, it isn't always easy. But  that doesn't mean we shouldn't try.

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  • If your going to get all dramatic and call it a 'curse', I think I'd have to say that it's incorrect. Lack of awareness would be the 'curse'. I could have made huge changes  that would have made things better for myself if I'd known sooner. If the wider community had more awareness,  people with mental health issues, not just those on the spectrum, would have an improved quality of life. It's true that statistics paint a bleak picture for us. But it doesn't mean that our lives are any worse than others. Everyone has challenges. Hell,  I have a cousin who used to get picked on because of his red hair. I'd love someone to explain that one to me! 

    We could spend our lives complaining about something that just is, or we can learn to look passed it. Yes, it isn't always easy. But  that doesn't mean we shouldn't try.

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