Aspergers syndrom is a curse

Aspergers is a curse. These are the unfortunate people who find they are different from the usual person found everywhere. Aspergers people cannot fit in with normal society. For that reason, they are excluded from being with friends and peers from an early age. They are unable to develop socially like their peers, so get left further behind. The inability to fit in and the differentness is made worse by the time they become adults. Many parents are simply embarassed having that child who is 'different', cannot do sports as others, comes across as weird. Besides with their mannerisms, their approaches to things, the way they speak in their monotone voice just annoys everyone else. With other handicaps - a person in a wheelchair can be accepted. A person with mental impairments lives with similar others in their colonies. An aspie cannot be recognized in the same way. Appears as normal till things start becoming apparrent.  He or she is not ill enough to qualify for disability allowances nor PIP. Morever the people who determine these, will never recognize an aspie and their needs purely because they are not in it. We talk about some high value people or stars being aspies, but statistically the typical aspie is most likely to be unemployed, living on their own and few friends. They maybe tried having a partner, but that failed. The partner soon realizes what they are yoked with and dump them.  Coming to job  interviews, their differentness is soon apparrent, they are deemed not to fit in the company, so do not get the job. Psychometric tests also detect aspies because the tests have questions which fish out the traits that aspies have like being loyal, preferring to work on their own, being organized, truth speaking.The tests fish out the things that an aspie cannot do and conclude that the person is not fit for the job based on abilities like being able to work under pressure or multi-task.

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  • I've been struggling for years and recently got a diagnosis. I'm not sure that close friends truly buy into the diagnosis or understand it and I don't want to over-explain it to them.

    I've had a rough time over the last week - I think mostly due to this "condition".

    I was breaking earlier today and ended up confiding in a friend. I explained how most (close to all) interactions are difficult for me, that I'm struggling with new work colleagues at the moment and that I keep how hard I find things to myself.

    He told me that he doesn't connect with many people, but did with me. That he appreciates our friendship, that he misses me and that his wife said that the problem is that I am super intelligent and too smart for most of the situations that I find myself in.

    I'm having some of the issues you've said, but wanted to share something positive. In my current difficult times and when I started to find it hard to even talk to people, someone identified my qualities and this "condition" felt like it might be a positive part of me.

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  • I've been struggling for years and recently got a diagnosis. I'm not sure that close friends truly buy into the diagnosis or understand it and I don't want to over-explain it to them.

    I've had a rough time over the last week - I think mostly due to this "condition".

    I was breaking earlier today and ended up confiding in a friend. I explained how most (close to all) interactions are difficult for me, that I'm struggling with new work colleagues at the moment and that I keep how hard I find things to myself.

    He told me that he doesn't connect with many people, but did with me. That he appreciates our friendship, that he misses me and that his wife said that the problem is that I am super intelligent and too smart for most of the situations that I find myself in.

    I'm having some of the issues you've said, but wanted to share something positive. In my current difficult times and when I started to find it hard to even talk to people, someone identified my qualities and this "condition" felt like it might be a positive part of me.

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