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Awaiting assessment, family disagree

C

Hi all,

This is my first post here. I wasn't sure where to turn as my mum is usually who I turn to. I'm currently awaiting assessment (October) and my mum is my 'person who knew me in childhood'. I found out this weekend that she doesn't believe I'm autistic as her partner's nephew is and I'm not like that.

I'm not sure how to process this. If I'm not autistic then why am I struggling so much? Am I faking the challenges I have? What if its like a munchausens by proxy kind of thing?

I'm female and already concerned about what assessment method will be used, I've read that some methods aren't catered to female presentations. What if my mum is right or that this is expressed in her session?

Now I'm spiralling and a little hurt but mostly confused. My mum has always been the person I turn to but now I don't know how to respond. 

Thoughts and comments?

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  • C said:
    I found out this weekend that she doesn't believe I'm autistic as her partner's nephew is and I'm not like that.

    As part of my assessment we had to complete a "Relatives Questionnaire" with my parents and when I explained the reasons I was going through the assessment processes, their views were "everyone feels like that". I thought my assessment would result in me not being "on the spectrum" and that I'd look really stupid for contemplating that I could have Asperger's.

    As it turned out, I scored highly on all tests and I think that my parents and most of my family, plus all of my friends can't see it or don't seem to want to discuss that it as being a possibility.

    C said:
    If I'm not autistic then why am I struggling so much?

    I felt and still feel like this.

    Don't get me wrong though ... I am happy to have gone through the assessment process.

  • in reply to StayingAnon

    Autism often runs in families so anyone discounting you because “everyone feels like that” is most probably on the spectrum themselves but doesn’t realise it

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