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Awaiting assessment, family disagree

C

Hi all,

This is my first post here. I wasn't sure where to turn as my mum is usually who I turn to. I'm currently awaiting assessment (October) and my mum is my 'person who knew me in childhood'. I found out this weekend that she doesn't believe I'm autistic as her partner's nephew is and I'm not like that.

I'm not sure how to process this. If I'm not autistic then why am I struggling so much? Am I faking the challenges I have? What if its like a munchausens by proxy kind of thing?

I'm female and already concerned about what assessment method will be used, I've read that some methods aren't catered to female presentations. What if my mum is right or that this is expressed in her session?

Now I'm spiralling and a little hurt but mostly confused. My mum has always been the person I turn to but now I don't know how to respond. 

Thoughts and comments?

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  • Thank you for your responses. I'm back from my mental spiral and will rtry to remember to look at this next time I have doubts!

  • in reply to C

    Hi. It certainly is a mental spiral lol. I ended up having my assessment on my own. My mum was on standby but I got the impression that if the assessors couldn’t establish a firm picture of   Me as a person they wanted to speak to her. Turns out I met all criteria and was rather a long way above the threshold score for a diagnosis. I was 38 at my assessment. My mum was supportive and did feel guilty that she never picked up my autistic traits but I said it’s not her fault. Everyone tells me I don’t seem autistic.... 

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  • in reply to C

    Hi. It certainly is a mental spiral lol. I ended up having my assessment on my own. My mum was on standby but I got the impression that if the assessors couldn’t establish a firm picture of   Me as a person they wanted to speak to her. Turns out I met all criteria and was rather a long way above the threshold score for a diagnosis. I was 38 at my assessment. My mum was supportive and did feel guilty that she never picked up my autistic traits but I said it’s not her fault. Everyone tells me I don’t seem autistic.... 

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