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I've deleted this post because one member was offended by its content. It's not my intention to offend anyone, simply to share my thoughts and experiences. And while I cannot predict what some individuals will find interesting or contentious, I can remove content once someone signals to me that they are offended by it.  

  • in reply to Loz
    Loz said:
    Even if that particular person isn't ready to take the advice, someone else who reads it might be.

    Yes! And the advice will still be here for them if/when they are ready.

  • In my own experience,  I find that people don't hear things until the conditions allow them to be ready to do so. On a forum you can't tell when that's the case for each person. If someone asks for advice, or vents a problem,  it's worth offering your perspective. You never know, this time may be the moment it resonates with them. You can offer your thoughts on a matter, and move on. Even if that particular person isn't ready to take the advice, someone else who reads it might be.

  • I hear all the sides here. 

    I'm not on every day - I don't get paid for life advice. And I don't even know that I have the best ideas. But yes, if you don't want my advice and you want to carry on making a mess of your life, go you. It's good to know my own limits. I try to steer clear of controlling individuals. I put time and effort in to thoughtfully weighing and attempting to explain a thing. Words don't come easily. Sometimes I spend time I should be spending on work on someone else's difficulty figuring out life. So it's nice when there is appreciation.

    It's also good to recognise when I'm being taken advantage of and someone just wants an echo chamber.  Know my limits & know what I can expect / not expect from another. Life is too short and I have too many problems in my own life.

  • So you basically want to isolate a potentially vulnerable individuals on this forum who are actively are having issues with decision making which often is a symptom of executive dysfunction that many individuals with autism and comorbid disorders may have  .

    It's not easy making a positive change and sometimes the individual can't use or take the advice that we give because of their health is compromised or their circumstance complex.

    Individuals who come on this website to vent have very little people in their life and most of people in their life don't understand them on a fundamental level or actively make life significantly harder. If someone is complaining a lot it's also a symptom of not knowing what to talk about because that individuals is forcing themselves to work to earn a living and has had to neglect their hobbies and interests just to be able to afford the bare essentials like a roof and food.

    You know the gatekeepers who actively create barriers for people are just as toxic as those who suck the energy out you.