Verbal bullying

That story is a bit hard to follow but from what I gather someone called someone weird and it upset them which made you angry?

I totally understand how if you have been bullied and called weird then hearing your friend was called weird by someone you trusted would be upsetting. Maybe you could tell them that, because I am sure their intent was not to upset.

Some people at school and at places I've worked have been very mean and it seemed to me that their goal is to upset people. I find that hard to deal with regardless of what the words were - but it's more the social exclusion and feeling like an outsider which hurts (when the joke is on you), especially when it's more than one person ganging up on you.

At other times, I think that people are not trying to be mean, but it's easy to misinterpret things when you are autistic and not know the difference between playful banter, off hand remarks, or bullying. I am always trying to work out "why" someone said something.

It gets especially bad if I'm suffering from burnout. Eventually the algorithms running in my head to try to analyse human behaviour just stop working and I assume everyone is out to get me, and at times like that it's just best not to be around people at all.

It can be stressful and exhausting when you don't understand people and you are forever trying to guess their intent.

You could try to own the label of "weird", because there is nothing wrong with being weird. It is an epithet that I accept because I am weird and I won't apologise for it, and I do not take it as an insult!

That story is a bit hard to follow but from what I gather someone called someone weird and it upset them which made you angry?

I totally understand how if you have been bullied and called weird then hearing your friend was called weird by someone you trusted would be upsetting. Maybe you could tell them that, because I am sure their intent was not to upset.

Some people at school and at places I've worked have been very mean and it seemed to me that their goal is to upset people. I find that hard to deal with regardless of what the words were - but it's more the social exclusion and feeling like an outsider which hurts (when the joke is on you), especially when it's more than one person ganging up on you.

At other times, I think that people are not trying to be mean, but it's easy to misinterpret things when you are autistic and not know the difference between playful banter, off hand remarks, or bullying. I am always trying to work out "why" someone said something.

It gets especially bad if I'm suffering from burnout. Eventually the algorithms running in my head to try to analyse human behaviour just stop working and I assume everyone is out to get me, and at times like that it's just best not to be around people at all.

It can be stressful and exhausting when you don't understand people and you are forever trying to guess their intent.

You could try to own the label of "weird", because there is nothing wrong with being weird. It is an epithet that I accept because I am weird and I won't apologise for it, and I do not take it as an insult!