Being "difficult" at work?

I'm generally pretty decent at my job wherever I work, but there is an aspect of work that always causes me issues.

I pick up on details that people often miss or choose to ignore, in particular when policies are not being followed, which in my job can put people at risk.

When I communicate this to management I am seen as being, "difficult," "abrupt," or "rude," but no-one can ever seem to tell me what I said that was actually rude, as opposed to being not what they wanted to hear, as it causes problems for them to have to solve.

This has been something I have faced for some while in a variety of workplaces.

I wish I could just ignore what I notice, but I literally feel compelled to identify issues once I see them, especially as they could endanger people.

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  • I think I need to come to terms with the fact that I am unable to interact with people very well nowadays.

    I just don't understand how to function in society. I used to be able to do it to some extent, but as the years have passed I find it less and less possible.

    Things probably started going particularly wrong about 15 years ago when my father got diagnosed with cancer. Since then there has been so much turmoil in my life. Four family deaths in quick succession (my father being the fourth in three years) and a total breakdown of contact with the rest of my family, who I no longer see. I have felt absolutely lost and confused ever since.

    That, combined with my utter inability to keep quiet when I see problems, have led to chaos.

    I do have some very long term friends and a great wife...so can't be all bad...yet WTF is wrong with me?

  • Sorry to hear that. Don’t roll over easily though. If have been there for more than 2 years you should be able to wangle a settlement package fairly easily if you make the right noise.

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