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Being "difficult" at work?

OAP - Older Autistic Person

I'm generally pretty decent at my job wherever I work, but there is an aspect of work that always causes me issues.

I pick up on details that people often miss or choose to ignore, in particular when policies are not being followed, which in my job can put people at risk.

When I communicate this to management I am seen as being, "difficult," "abrupt," or "rude," but no-one can ever seem to tell me what I said that was actually rude, as opposed to being not what they wanted to hear, as it causes problems for them to have to solve.

This has been something I have faced for some while in a variety of workplaces.

I wish I could just ignore what I notice, but I literally feel compelled to identify issues once I see them, especially as they could endanger people.

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  • Yeah the whole be seen to have done something whilst blatantly not doing anything is the scourge of the NT world.

    I’m lucky enough to make the rules so it’s easy to know what we do and why, I can even change the rules when we need to, sometimes I have to choose a less bad outcome.

    So if a rule isn’t been no followed what are people doing? Could the rules be changed to reflect what is happening, what are the benefits and risks of the old and new rules then finally who sets the rules needs to make a decision.

    You’re being no less difficult but you are providing a route to a resolution and being constructive. 

    I’d guess more and more of these problems occur for you and this pushes you out of your comfort zone further and longer risking a shutdown or a meltdown. Eventually you’ll move on where there is a clean sheet and the process starts again.

    It never gets easier you just end up pushing further and further up the structures. 

    I always have a few being “difficulty’s” going 

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  • Yeah the whole be seen to have done something whilst blatantly not doing anything is the scourge of the NT world.

    I’m lucky enough to make the rules so it’s easy to know what we do and why, I can even change the rules when we need to, sometimes I have to choose a less bad outcome.

    So if a rule isn’t been no followed what are people doing? Could the rules be changed to reflect what is happening, what are the benefits and risks of the old and new rules then finally who sets the rules needs to make a decision.

    You’re being no less difficult but you are providing a route to a resolution and being constructive. 

    I’d guess more and more of these problems occur for you and this pushes you out of your comfort zone further and longer risking a shutdown or a meltdown. Eventually you’ll move on where there is a clean sheet and the process starts again.

    It never gets easier you just end up pushing further and further up the structures. 

    I always have a few being “difficulty’s” going 

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