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Were young men with Autism wrapped up in Cotton Wool?

Desmond79

I feel that, after hearing stories about how young girls take such advantage of the boys they date, boys nowadays are wrapped up in cotton wool; therefore, they're not allowed the opportunity to row up.

A female friend, the closest woman I ever had to a girlfriend, looks after her Autistic brother - who's now 40 - and keeps saying, "He can't look after himself! So, he can't!" Well, he was never given the opportunity to make adult decisions. I felt that was the same with my gran; although my brother was given more opportunity to be independent once he went to Tech. Most of it stems from women's obsession with 'The Family Name'. Also, women don't have a healthy way of dealing with grief; my female friend's father died of cancer, and an aunt of hers died of Covid last winter; the aunt's husband died soon after.

Also, I said I wasn't taking the vaccine, and her response was, "DO AS I SAY!" Now, she's making nachos for my dinner tomorrow; which I'll collect, then heat up. I'm worried what she might say. But I'll play by ear.

I can cope with the housework, on my own, but haven't a scooby about money-management; mainly because my income is so low.

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  • in my experience parents generally, especially conservative ones, try to insulate their children from the world and then act totally shocked when at 16 to 18 they are still very dependant on them emotionally and practically. It's as if they expect all of that confidence and independence to materialise in a couple of years and that just not the way the world works. Autism probably makes this worse. Because if you suddenly push your kid to be more independent around 16-18 and it leads to a catastrophic mess you might never try to push them again, and they might never have the confidence to try it again.

  • in reply to Peter

    That attitude was championed by the United States; propagated by the likes of Jerry Springer and Maury Popovic. Also, Americans love it when Moms talk down to their kids. They brought that attitude here, too.

    In the Sixties and Seventies, girls here left school - to go to work - at 14, started going to dances at 16 and got married at 21. Guess what? The world didn't come to an end. In fact, children were happier and more innocent back then. Nowadays, kids are under too much pressure to get too little in result. I can vouch for that; as a 'Bum with a Degree'.

    Girls are encouraged to be loud and outgoing these days, propagated from The Spice Girls onwards, while boys are made to stay in their rooms playing Video Games. Again, naive parenting from 'Karens'.

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  • in reply to Peter

    That attitude was championed by the United States; propagated by the likes of Jerry Springer and Maury Popovic. Also, Americans love it when Moms talk down to their kids. They brought that attitude here, too.

    In the Sixties and Seventies, girls here left school - to go to work - at 14, started going to dances at 16 and got married at 21. Guess what? The world didn't come to an end. In fact, children were happier and more innocent back then. Nowadays, kids are under too much pressure to get too little in result. I can vouch for that; as a 'Bum with a Degree'.

    Girls are encouraged to be loud and outgoing these days, propagated from The Spice Girls onwards, while boys are made to stay in their rooms playing Video Games. Again, naive parenting from 'Karens'.

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