• Replies 9 replies
  • Subscribers 83 subscribers
  • Views 1642 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Were young men with Autism wrapped up in Cotton Wool?

Desmond79

I feel that, after hearing stories about how young girls take such advantage of the boys they date, boys nowadays are wrapped up in cotton wool; therefore, they're not allowed the opportunity to row up.

A female friend, the closest woman I ever had to a girlfriend, looks after her Autistic brother - who's now 40 - and keeps saying, "He can't look after himself! So, he can't!" Well, he was never given the opportunity to make adult decisions. I felt that was the same with my gran; although my brother was given more opportunity to be independent once he went to Tech. Most of it stems from women's obsession with 'The Family Name'. Also, women don't have a healthy way of dealing with grief; my female friend's father died of cancer, and an aunt of hers died of Covid last winter; the aunt's husband died soon after.

Also, I said I wasn't taking the vaccine, and her response was, "DO AS I SAY!" Now, she's making nachos for my dinner tomorrow; which I'll collect, then heat up. I'm worried what she might say. But I'll play by ear.

I can cope with the housework, on my own, but haven't a scooby about money-management; mainly because my income is so low.

  • in reply to Desmond79

    Not entirely, your choice has possible repercussions for the rest of the population, or at least those you come into contact with. 

  • in reply to Peter

    That attitude was championed by the United States; propagated by the likes of Jerry Springer and Maury Popovic. Also, Americans love it when Moms talk down to their kids. They brought that attitude here, too.

    In the Sixties and Seventies, girls here left school - to go to work - at 14, started going to dances at 16 and got married at 21. Guess what? The world didn't come to an end. In fact, children were happier and more innocent back then. Nowadays, kids are under too much pressure to get too little in result. I can vouch for that; as a 'Bum with a Degree'.

    Girls are encouraged to be loud and outgoing these days, propagated from The Spice Girls onwards, while boys are made to stay in their rooms playing Video Games. Again, naive parenting from 'Karens'.

  • in reply to Caelus

    There you go again with the negativity. I feel like I want to mother/father you. Put you on the right path and build up your self-esteem. What about your actual parents? Do they know how you feel about life?

  • in reply to Martin

    It's a personal choice; my friend's reaction was based solely on fear and trauma.

  • in reply to Caelus

    im good at money management though, but i dont think money management is a autism thing either way. more of a seperate personality trait maybe, probs related more to ones greed. i dont have job or any money and money was always rare to me, so any money i got i saved and tried to store up to grow my money stack more and avoid any spending. then i now advanced that to investing into things, such as crypto, which superbly paid off for me (so far touch wood) but money is always a issue because society demands so much of it. no amount of good money management will get anyone by in this world.

  • Your attitude to the Covid vaccine is irrational. In the UK there have been 129,743 deaths caused by the virus and 460 deaths after administration of vaccines, this does not mean that the vaccines caused all, or even a significant proportion, of these deaths, however. The danger posed by any of the vaccines is insignificant, compared to the dangers of the Covid virus. My daughter was 22 when she caught Covid last year; it had very bad effects on her health for many months after, plus she was briefly admitted to hospital six months after the initial infection. Your friend should have made an appeal to your intelligence, rather than giving you orders.

  • well because i was never diagnosed i never got any treatment or help, and yet without any help my life is now a total wreck with nothing in it and the future is a set course driving full speed off a cliff lol

    if i got help it could have perhaps changed things..... not sure about so much so that it acts as wrapping in cotton wool.... but if i got that much help to the point of being molly coddled it would have made me a less aggressive and douchey person perhaps maybe lol which to others would be a improvement, but then id probably be too soft and naive instead. so its a flip when it comes to that i guess, you either get too much help and become soft and naive and a easy target in this horrible world, or you get no help at all and you become aggressive and abrasive and unlikable to others lol

  • in my experience parents generally, especially conservative ones, try to insulate their children from the world and then act totally shocked when at 16 to 18 they are still very dependant on them emotionally and practically. It's as if they expect all of that confidence and independence to materialise in a couple of years and that just not the way the world works. Autism probably makes this worse. Because if you suddenly push your kid to be more independent around 16-18 and it leads to a catastrophic mess you might never try to push them again, and they might never have the confidence to try it again.

  • Desmond, it's a good idea not to believe everything we hear. It sounds to me as if you've had some bad experiences with women in your life and now you are looking for further evidence of women behaving badly and men being helpless. I'm fairly certain that dysfunctional behaviour is shared equally between both sexes.