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Brother is nit just autistic but also a psychopath

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My brother who has autism which I believe is also psychopathy or something along those lines... Recently we have had a falling out about my grandmother who recently passed away and he is absolute %100 void of care and empathy often says he doesn't care shes gone and literally said she was a d head so he doesnt care shes gone.

I've been saying it for years he needs serious help but my mother has always given him sympathy and takes no notice of it and says oh he has autism. I know for a fact if I told the rest of my family about the real reason he isn't going to my grans funeral they would all hate him but no my mother just keeps him sheltered and says its ok even if he's clearly in the wrong she will still apologise to HIM.

I could never bring any women round to the house and an ex girlfriend of mine actually dumped me purely because of him.. He used to try to watch us having sex by spying through the curtains one time. He is practically always playing with himself upstairs and is CONSTANTLY talking about sex and getting laid he is literally obsessed with sex.

I want her to put him somewhere... I dont know what but like some psych ward or something to sort him out I know one day he will end up doing something stupid to someone. It's  ot the fact he has autism but he is a psychopath on top of that but my mum just says oh its autism leave him be when clearly it's not just autism.

There are plenty of very lovable people with autism who are very sweet and I tell you now he doesnt just have autism there is something serious there and nobody listens I don't know what to do?

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  • I'm sorry to hear about your Nan. How old are you? Can you move out?

    Life is full of humans focusing on their own survival and needs. Perhaps you could make a plan to focus on yours at this point. It might even be beneficial to go down a path of studying psychology or neurology or at least begin to create a vision and make a plan for your future life. I probably wouldn't want to listen to my siblings, either. I moved out at 17 and I know a few friends who had difficult homes they left at 16. 

    I could go in-depth at what classifies psyopaths from what I've read, but I doubt it would help.  Even an introduction to Freud then Lacan and branching off to more individuals I prefer like Felix Guattari and his theories... It's like saying someone has cancer. I'm not qualified to assess that. To make a case to your mum would take assessing how you grew up, the cause and effects of her interactions with you both, you'd need to list recurring "systems of exchange" if you think it has been hindering his growth. It does sound like your grandmother could see problems but she may have had trouble with the way he's wired and maybe he was incredibly aware and impacted by how she felt about him. His response could be relief of her being gone: years of feeling judged by her over. 

    You're in a difficult place... sorry to hear. For me, the only way to get beyond a no-win situation was research, study, and removing myself from harmful situations when my boundaries weren't respected. If that meant I slept on a friends couch for a month, so be it.

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  • I'm sorry to hear about your Nan. How old are you? Can you move out?

    Life is full of humans focusing on their own survival and needs. Perhaps you could make a plan to focus on yours at this point. It might even be beneficial to go down a path of studying psychology or neurology or at least begin to create a vision and make a plan for your future life. I probably wouldn't want to listen to my siblings, either. I moved out at 17 and I know a few friends who had difficult homes they left at 16. 

    I could go in-depth at what classifies psyopaths from what I've read, but I doubt it would help.  Even an introduction to Freud then Lacan and branching off to more individuals I prefer like Felix Guattari and his theories... It's like saying someone has cancer. I'm not qualified to assess that. To make a case to your mum would take assessing how you grew up, the cause and effects of her interactions with you both, you'd need to list recurring "systems of exchange" if you think it has been hindering his growth. It does sound like your grandmother could see problems but she may have had trouble with the way he's wired and maybe he was incredibly aware and impacted by how she felt about him. His response could be relief of her being gone: years of feeling judged by her over. 

    You're in a difficult place... sorry to hear. For me, the only way to get beyond a no-win situation was research, study, and removing myself from harmful situations when my boundaries weren't respected. If that meant I slept on a friends couch for a month, so be it.

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