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Brother is nit just autistic but also a psychopath

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My brother who has autism which I believe is also psychopathy or something along those lines... Recently we have had a falling out about my grandmother who recently passed away and he is absolute %100 void of care and empathy often says he doesn't care shes gone and literally said she was a d head so he doesnt care shes gone.

I've been saying it for years he needs serious help but my mother has always given him sympathy and takes no notice of it and says oh he has autism. I know for a fact if I told the rest of my family about the real reason he isn't going to my grans funeral they would all hate him but no my mother just keeps him sheltered and says its ok even if he's clearly in the wrong she will still apologise to HIM.

I could never bring any women round to the house and an ex girlfriend of mine actually dumped me purely because of him.. He used to try to watch us having sex by spying through the curtains one time. He is practically always playing with himself upstairs and is CONSTANTLY talking about sex and getting laid he is literally obsessed with sex.

I want her to put him somewhere... I dont know what but like some psych ward or something to sort him out I know one day he will end up doing something stupid to someone. It's  ot the fact he has autism but he is a psychopath on top of that but my mum just says oh its autism leave him be when clearly it's not just autism.

There are plenty of very lovable people with autism who are very sweet and I tell you now he doesnt just have autism there is something serious there and nobody listens I don't know what to do?

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  • Does your brother visit any therapists or psychologists?

    I think your mother is much too enabling of your brother's behaviors, and dismissive of your concerns. I don't think she'll do anything about it, considering that she thinks all these strange behaviors are just traits of autism, and it seems she does not know much beyond that. 

    I think that if you get an opinion from a health care professional about your brother's behaviors, maybe through a hotline, or from a resource centre, or by even trying to just talk to your doctor about it, that can be an extremely helpful wealth of information. Because if you only tell your family expecting them to do something about it, they most likely will not see it as a problem, they might enable bad behavior, they might dismissive about what you say, and they likely just want to keep you silent. 

    If your parents are not willing to do anything about it, your brother will likely continue to grow into a bigger and more uncontrollable problem as the years go on, until he's society's problem and not just your family's problem anymore. I mean years of reinforcing any type of behavior only makes it grow stronger, and even if everyone hopes that a bad person will change to be a good person one day, that does not happen if that individual is only practicing bad behaviors every single day. As time goes on, that individual will likely not even see their own behaviors as problematic anymore, because it's normal for to them to behave in that bad way. 

    I really do hope that you can get your family to go to a psychologist so that they can reassess your brother's behavior, because you really can tell something more is going on than just autism. 

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  • Does your brother visit any therapists or psychologists?

    I think your mother is much too enabling of your brother's behaviors, and dismissive of your concerns. I don't think she'll do anything about it, considering that she thinks all these strange behaviors are just traits of autism, and it seems she does not know much beyond that. 

    I think that if you get an opinion from a health care professional about your brother's behaviors, maybe through a hotline, or from a resource centre, or by even trying to just talk to your doctor about it, that can be an extremely helpful wealth of information. Because if you only tell your family expecting them to do something about it, they most likely will not see it as a problem, they might enable bad behavior, they might dismissive about what you say, and they likely just want to keep you silent. 

    If your parents are not willing to do anything about it, your brother will likely continue to grow into a bigger and more uncontrollable problem as the years go on, until he's society's problem and not just your family's problem anymore. I mean years of reinforcing any type of behavior only makes it grow stronger, and even if everyone hopes that a bad person will change to be a good person one day, that does not happen if that individual is only practicing bad behaviors every single day. As time goes on, that individual will likely not even see their own behaviors as problematic anymore, because it's normal for to them to behave in that bad way. 

    I really do hope that you can get your family to go to a psychologist so that they can reassess your brother's behavior, because you really can tell something more is going on than just autism. 

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