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Would love your opinions if this is an autistic trait or not

NAS74147

i know some of these may sound stupid or silly but I don’t know what’s real anymore as I thought all these where “normal” until it has been pointed out to me the past few months. My 2 sons have been diagnosed autistic and I was surprised as they are just like I was at their age, the list below may sound silly and just be me but I would love your feedback on anything that jumps out at you  

I could make a list a mile long but here are some of the main ones.

  • Walking into a group of people in a room I have a weird feeling that they was talking about me beforehand or they don’t want me there. 
  • i don’t like mess but I can handle mess that I have created longer than other peoples. 
  • i ask people why they don’t do something as it seems so logical to me
  • It feels when I’m around other people I put on an act but not realising I’m doing it. I feel it’s something I have done all my life, like a showman even for example smiles or compassion. I know I’m happy inside but I need to act showing it on the outside.
  • Not sure how to react when people are mad angry or sad
  • Can walk away from long term relationships
  • Get bubbly inside when plans change
  • Rather my own company
  • When I have a hobby I do it 500% quickly
  • Can’t hear other people when noises in background
  • Some noises annoy me like loud music in the car, yet when I’m driving it’s fine
  • People say I’m rude or heartless
  • People say I’m in a mood when I’m not
  • I do things for the sake of doing them as I should enjoy them but don’t
  • Have no imagination like playing with toys as a child or playing characters with my children is really hard and forced
  • I like planning everything (eg I start planing in my head packing up the caravan as soon as we arrived at the location and setup. Even if we are staying for a week)
  • If I get a business idea it’s all setup that day where it takes other people weeks to do
  • I think a lot about do people actually want me at an event or if they are talking about me even though I know 100% they are not
  • I hate being interrupted when I’m doing something even though the thing I might be doing is important but it seems like it’s important to me at the time.
  • I let people down on social events as I overthink the whole night or day
  • I feel like a spoilt child if I can’t have my own way even at the age of 32 and I know I’m not spoilt.
  • I have very little friends as in one or two (I don’t mean in height haha) for the reason I find it more of a hindrance to have a freind than anything else 

  • you have hit a lot of autism traits in this list. Maybe you should ask your GP for an autism diagnosis ?

  • Hi. Are you impacted financially or emotionally or have you spent too much time trying to problem solve complications in your life? If not then it might not matter. 

    one complexity I’ve come to understand is how autism affects ones ability to intake and relay information. And then a problem expressing, using language, effecting understanding education and leaving autists marginalised and isolated with a lack of ability to receive proper growth in what their skills would be. Or a lack of maturing into what’s “normal”. 

    Many are self taught, or working for themselves. 

    if you feel it’s important to get help at this point you could begin a journey to diagnose. In some places this can be too expansive. 

    I also think many things can be confusing. The research is still defining and redefining what it is and isn’t. In my case I was tired of continually being misunderstood. 

  • Nearly everything you've listed sounds like the way people on The Autism Spectrum communicate and interact.

    Some of what you've listed like people talking about you are more like reactions because of past experiences.