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Asd meltdowns.

NAS74077

Hi my daughter/son as asd. But as so many meltdowns were he bites his self punchs walls and bangs his head on floor. Hes also transgender wanting to be a boy instead of a girl.he dosnt go out of house cos of anxity. His safe place is his bedroom. He is 17 and i dont know what i can do to help him. Please can anyone give me advice . He also tells me he wishes he was dead.

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  • I think he needs professional counselling. I'm not sure, with his current mental state as it is, that you can do much to help him. He's got a lot going on, ASD 'and' transgenger issues. I think you need to speak with your GP, see if you can access counselling. Or maybe CAMHS (the cut off age is, I believe, 18. Though I could be wrong there). If you can finance it, you could cut out the middleman and go private, but make sure you find a reputable counsellor with experience in both ASD and transgenderism (there's probably a directory on this site). Ignore Caelus, he's not great with the advice, no real world experience. By acknowledging your sons desire to change gender, you're not "pandering" to him, you're accepting him. And that's what he needs. The worst thing you could do, in his current fragile state, is try and make him accept his femaleness. He'll feel rejected, confused and even more alone. Professional counselling can help him find out if that's what he really wants. 

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  • I think he needs professional counselling. I'm not sure, with his current mental state as it is, that you can do much to help him. He's got a lot going on, ASD 'and' transgenger issues. I think you need to speak with your GP, see if you can access counselling. Or maybe CAMHS (the cut off age is, I believe, 18. Though I could be wrong there). If you can finance it, you could cut out the middleman and go private, but make sure you find a reputable counsellor with experience in both ASD and transgenderism (there's probably a directory on this site). Ignore Caelus, he's not great with the advice, no real world experience. By acknowledging your sons desire to change gender, you're not "pandering" to him, you're accepting him. And that's what he needs. The worst thing you could do, in his current fragile state, is try and make him accept his femaleness. He'll feel rejected, confused and even more alone. Professional counselling can help him find out if that's what he really wants. 

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  • in reply to JustMe

    He is under cahms. And he as been bullied since being in infants school. 

  • in reply to JustMe

    ***edited by moderator**** influencers and teachers that spread these ideas to your kids in the first place and cause them these issues to begin with. they are a poison to your kids mind and when the damage is done it will be undoable and the worst will happen. these people need to be taken to court in a ideal world for forcing your kid down a path of self harm and mutilation.

    and how can accepting the body you have make you feel rejected? if you cant accept your own body ofcourse your gonna feel a lot of rejection, these people force your kid to doubt themselves and reject their body and not accept their body and thus causes all these feelings of rejection ..... to say you are the person that your body isnt actually adds the feeling of rejection as it makes them feel they have to reject their body, and that usually ends with mutilation followed by suicide, all the feelings your kid hgas... ******** rather than wanting a person to be at ease with themself and accept themself and be happy.

    [Edited by moderator due to breaking rule 4]