Asd meltdowns.

Although he is physically hurting himself, there's a lot of deep emotional pain going on as well. I wonder if he was heavily bullied, criticized or socially ostracized, maybe others didn't like him and treated him badly, so he has a hard time liking himself. I mean if there's people who have been harsh towards him and criticized him and didn't like him, then after a time, he'll begin criticizing himself and not liking himself. 

I think it would be good if he could stop being around people who might be treating him badly, so that he can recover from the past, and have the freedom and the space to be himself. Sometimes people need permission or validation from others that they can be who they want to be, but if they are bullied and put down they can go into hiding and limit what they are capable of doing.

I mean many people with asd are very creative, and/or very rational and intelligent, and they can get really good at what they do, but in both instances they can become very isolated and depressed for not being like everyone else. But if they constantly compare themselves to everyone else, they'll never be happy, and I think that is true for anyone. I think that he should focus on what makes him happy, even if it's a scary thing for him to do.

I mean I've been in a negative states of mind before, but I rationalized that if the option of death seems like a more doable option than being happy in life, that living a happy and fulfilling life is harder of not impossible to do, then there's something weird going on. And then I look at my environment and the people within it, and take a look at what those people have been telling me. If they called me stupid, I used to just repeat it in my mind over and over again, "I'm stupid, I'm stupid, I'm stupid" for years, but then one day I tried to I rephrase it in the form of a question, "Am I really as stupid as they say I am?" And then that formed a goal in my mind to see if that was really the case, so I started studying in school and by the end I got straight A's to my disbelief. So it's important to test things out, especially about people judging you for who you are and what you're capable of doing in life. 

Although he is physically hurting himself, there's a lot of deep emotional pain going on as well. I wonder if he was heavily bullied, criticized or socially ostracized, maybe others didn't like him and treated him badly, so he has a hard time liking himself. I mean if there's people who have been harsh towards him and criticized him and didn't like him, then after a time, he'll begin criticizing himself and not liking himself. 

I think it would be good if he could stop being around people who might be treating him badly, so that he can recover from the past, and have the freedom and the space to be himself. Sometimes people need permission or validation from others that they can be who they want to be, but if they are bullied and put down they can go into hiding and limit what they are capable of doing.

I mean many people with asd are very creative, and/or very rational and intelligent, and they can get really good at what they do, but in both instances they can become very isolated and depressed for not being like everyone else. But if they constantly compare themselves to everyone else, they'll never be happy, and I think that is true for anyone. I think that he should focus on what makes him happy, even if it's a scary thing for him to do.

I mean I've been in a negative states of mind before, but I rationalized that if the option of death seems like a more doable option than being happy in life, that living a happy and fulfilling life is harder of not impossible to do, then there's something weird going on. And then I look at my environment and the people within it, and take a look at what those people have been telling me. If they called me stupid, I used to just repeat it in my mind over and over again, "I'm stupid, I'm stupid, I'm stupid" for years, but then one day I tried to I rephrase it in the form of a question, "Am I really as stupid as they say I am?" And then that formed a goal in my mind to see if that was really the case, so I started studying in school and by the end I got straight A's to my disbelief. So it's important to test things out, especially about people judging you for who you are and what you're capable of doing in life.