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Late diagnosis female

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Hi only recently given  ASD diagnosis, as a female aged 40 I'm trying to understand myself more and not blame myself for trying to fit in with the neurotypical lifestyle I struggled so hard to adjust to, causing so much stress and other mental health issues. 

The  problem I have  is people I surround myself with are finding it hard to understand that I am actually Autistic (as I have seemed to  managed OK in their eyes all this time, so why change)

it's as if they think I've exaggerated how Autism affects me because they didn't notice. I have Masked alot throughout my life and just finding it hard to be accepted for who I really am at moment. 

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  • I was diagnosed last year at 55 yrs old, it makes me angry when i think of the years of abuse i got and people not understanding me. I have suffered with mental health problems nearly all my life a and a anxiety disorder.  It is now affecting me more now than before ? I personally do feel hard done by when i think back.  I to have masked so much , i do understand how difficult even the word Autism  can make you feel ?  People have a real hard time excepting mental health ,why im not sure ?  Do people think that we play on it and we are weak ?  Don't change nothing you have autism !   weak my ***. 

  • in reply to NAS70994

    When I've discussed difficulties with others and they say "I do that too" I know deep down, more effort is required on my part to do the same things other people are able to do naturally. Its very difficult to explain this without coming across as wet or overly sensitive / emotional. My assessors said I was very resilient. I've never seen it this way before. I think this is a testament (?) to my masking. It was always more a feeling of, why can't I just get on with life like other people. Why does anxiety and 9verthinking always have to get in the way.

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  • in reply to NAS70994

    When I've discussed difficulties with others and they say "I do that too" I know deep down, more effort is required on my part to do the same things other people are able to do naturally. Its very difficult to explain this without coming across as wet or overly sensitive / emotional. My assessors said I was very resilient. I've never seen it this way before. I think this is a testament (?) to my masking. It was always more a feeling of, why can't I just get on with life like other people. Why does anxiety and 9verthinking always have to get in the way.

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