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Autism and formal speech

Ausomely Autistic

I have been told that I am quite pedantic and I speak formally a lot of the time. I think there are 4 main reasons for this:

  • Detail focused processing style- it is really important for me to be precise with what I say to avoid misunderstandings 
  • Large vocabulary 
  • Provides structure for interaction 
  • Love of language 

What do you think? Do you speak formally?

I am just interested in other people’s opinions and whether formality is important to you.

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  • I can relate to all of that!

    I'm not struggling with "word finding" - I am choosing one that you will understand the nuance of. Or I am trying not to repeat the same word over and over again, or trying not to use a technical term which you won't understand (or might understand way better than me so I shouldn't be using it at all).

    Also - being interrupted really throws me off - it seems that way too many people live by the idea that whoever speaks first has the right answer, and my detailed and well-thought-through idea is dismissed or not even listened to.

    What on earth is the point of having an 'informal chat' about - for example - your salary or a health matter? Is it so that you can not take seriously something that is going to have a big impact on my life?

    I do love words and etymology and have to resist the urge to ask people whether they really understand what they just said - it feels very arrogant to ask but then, what is the point of a communication if neither side has in fact understood what the other is saying?!

  • in reply to JJ

    I also really like to have in depth conversations, they are meaningful. You get to understand a person properly when you explore passions or intense topics together.

  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    Do you find that this makes for a more prolonged or detailed 'negotiation phase' at the beginning of a conversation where you are trying to establish a mutual communication level (ie tone, technical understanding, social requirement)?

  • in reply to JJ

    "I dont know,, is a perfectly acceptable answer"   was on the signature of every one of ex-bosses emails in USA. He as so sensible Slight smile

  • in reply to JJ
    JJ said:
    This forum is one of the few places I can actually discuss autism.

    Yes I agree, it is really important to be able to talk about a significant identity such as being autistic, shared interests and experiences. That’s why it’s also necessary for me to talk to my family a lot. 

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