Asc husband and adhd wife

Looking for ways to help our relationship,  I have adhd combined type ( the wife ) , my husband is awaiting late diagnosis for asc , he has ocd ,anxiety.  He struggles mostly with emotions, cant show emotions or romance,  his imagination is very limited and needs constant input from me . 

What would help please   ?  He sees no one ,no therapy  no medications and will be assessed next month. 

Been together 25 years  we have 7 neuro diverse children with asc adhd or both and it's only while seeking the childrens diagnosis's that we figured out that we too had conditions.  

How can I help our marriage  please?