Handling moments with neighbours when you can't speak or recognise them

Hello,

I'm having a dilemma with managing the temporary losses of speech and inability to recognise people that happen to me when I'm overwhelmed. I'm worried about upsetting my neighbours by ignoring them when I would usually try to talk with them. Up until now I have been avoiding this by just not leaving the house when I'm like this but I'd really like to go for walks outside without worrying about it. The amount of time I am unable to speak is getting more and more as I get older and avoiding is resulting in me being stuck in the house for days at a time. I have been considering putting notes through their doors to let them know I'm struggling a lot at the moment and may not be able to recognise them or speak when I am out. I want them to know I'm not ignoring them deliberately. I can't even remember if I have told them I am autistic. I'm not sure how to word this and how much information I should give or if I should even do this?

Thankyou in advance for any help any of you can offer me!

Lizzy

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  • Thanks for this post, i've had similar things happen myself (mainly the silence, but also not recognising neighbours) but didn't know if it was an autism thing so I'm pleased to hear I'm not the only one. I always remember with embarrassment leaving my house once when I was very stressed about work and looking to my left as I shut my door stared straight through my neighbour, I saw them but didn't recognise or acknowledge them. Like you I've considered letting neighbours know I have autism so they can understand it but I also feel quite private about it so it's difficult, in general I think people just think I'm anti-social

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  • Thanks for this post, i've had similar things happen myself (mainly the silence, but also not recognising neighbours) but didn't know if it was an autism thing so I'm pleased to hear I'm not the only one. I always remember with embarrassment leaving my house once when I was very stressed about work and looking to my left as I shut my door stared straight through my neighbour, I saw them but didn't recognise or acknowledge them. Like you I've considered letting neighbours know I have autism so they can understand it but I also feel quite private about it so it's difficult, in general I think people just think I'm anti-social

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