Social skills books for adults with Aspergers

I have found Digby Tantam's book "Can the World Afford Autistic Spectrum Disorder? Nonverbal communication, asperger syndrome and the interbrain". It was published 2009 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. He has a neat way of explaining the social communication issues in terms of bandwidth, which seems to work for me.

Also I have made use of Edmonds and Beardon (2008) Asperger Syndrome & Social Relationships - Adults Speak out about Asperger Syndrome" again JKP. It suffers from the usual poroblem though of being an edited compilation of articles from different perspectives, without really getting down to how do you do it?

There really is a need for a book that gets down to why problems occur. And there isn't enough about eye contact and what purpose it serves - for example getting a drink at a crowded bar when you don't know how to get the barman's attention with your eyes.  Or how to spot the effects of stress or tiredness on how well you function socially.

I'm markedly affected by background noise and movement, if complex, thiough this isn't exclusive to autistic spectrum. It often means for me that what people are saying suddenly stops sounding like English. I then have to keep asking people to repeat what they said, or say I cannot make out what they are saying. So they then start saying things loudly and slowly right in my ear, as if they suppose I'm deaf, which makes no difference to my lost translation skill.

I have found Digby Tantam's book "Can the World Afford Autistic Spectrum Disorder? Nonverbal communication, asperger syndrome and the interbrain". It was published 2009 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. He has a neat way of explaining the social communication issues in terms of bandwidth, which seems to work for me.

Also I have made use of Edmonds and Beardon (2008) Asperger Syndrome & Social Relationships - Adults Speak out about Asperger Syndrome" again JKP. It suffers from the usual poroblem though of being an edited compilation of articles from different perspectives, without really getting down to how do you do it?

There really is a need for a book that gets down to why problems occur. And there isn't enough about eye contact and what purpose it serves - for example getting a drink at a crowded bar when you don't know how to get the barman's attention with your eyes.  Or how to spot the effects of stress or tiredness on how well you function socially.

I'm markedly affected by background noise and movement, if complex, thiough this isn't exclusive to autistic spectrum. It often means for me that what people are saying suddenly stops sounding like English. I then have to keep asking people to repeat what they said, or say I cannot make out what they are saying. So they then start saying things loudly and slowly right in my ear, as if they suppose I'm deaf, which makes no difference to my lost translation skill.