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Seeing both sides of the situation

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I can often see both sides of a problem or situation. It makes things difficult cos people think I'm on their side. And I am. But I'm also a bit on the other side too. I agree with both sides. But they don't know that because i dont want to be rude and say what I think about the other side of the story. Then I feel stuck in the middle and two faced and I feel like I'm lying. The other people very much take one side or the other.

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  • I know this post isn't recent, but it reminds me of a situation I found myself in back in my school days (mid teens). At the time, I was friends with four other females. Two of them had fallen out and weren't talking to each other, and the remaining two had taken sides. As far as I was concerned, the friends that had fallen out were both being as bad as each other. I refused to take a side, so had been dividing my break times and lunchtimes between both sets of friends. Due to my unwillingness to pick a side, all four of them then stopped talking to me. This lasted until both sides became friends again about a fortnight later.

    At the time I considered it terribly unfair that both sets of friends deemed me a traitor for fraternising with the enemy, and I can remember writing about the unjustice of it all in my diary. When I think about it now, it just makes me laugh. 

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  • I know this post isn't recent, but it reminds me of a situation I found myself in back in my school days (mid teens). At the time, I was friends with four other females. Two of them had fallen out and weren't talking to each other, and the remaining two had taken sides. As far as I was concerned, the friends that had fallen out were both being as bad as each other. I refused to take a side, so had been dividing my break times and lunchtimes between both sets of friends. Due to my unwillingness to pick a side, all four of them then stopped talking to me. This lasted until both sides became friends again about a fortnight later.

    At the time I considered it terribly unfair that both sets of friends deemed me a traitor for fraternising with the enemy, and I can remember writing about the unjustice of it all in my diary. When I think about it now, it just makes me laugh. 

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  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

    Some people are weird!! But I suppose at school this is where we learn all this stuff even if it makes no sense.

    I was actually thinking about this very topic yesterday. I had forgotten I had made such a post. These days I actually feel comfortable with being in the middle. It's who I am. I actually think it is a strength I can empathise with both perspectives and not feel torn to choose a side. I'm talking very much about work here. I think if you can be upfront with both parties and assert oneself it's not a problem. I think I am more confident in myself now I know I'm AS. I think it's just people can take things personally.