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Loneliness

NAS73898

I’ve never done anything like this before and I’m very nervous, but due to the pandemic my diagnostic assessments have all taken a very long time almost 2 years. I’m coming close to the end soon ( I hope,) but I just wanted to talk about loneliness. .

I feel super lonely and there is not a lot of support out there for people that haven’t finished their diagnosis yet, and it feel like no one understands the sensory struggles I face and many counsellors look at me with two heads when I talk about things. 

 I don’t have any friends as I really struggle to understand socialisation. I just wanted some advice and to see if anyone else feels the same really. :) 

  • Before the pandemic my plan for 2020 was to start going to meet ups (e.g. meetup.com) and try various hobbies out in the hope of meeting people and being less lonely.

    Unfortunately that all got put on hold because of lockdowns and now it seems everything has moved online. Even now when most people are vaccinated from a disease which is of no risk to them, people are still terrified and I don't think things will ever get back to normal. It's become next to impossible to meet people and make new friends as an adult and it wasn't easy before.

    Most people have their established friendship groups from school and university already. I genuinely don't know what to do. The only people I talk to are online. Even though I often don't like human contact, I think I need it. I honestly don't know what to do now. My only hope is the new freedom day on July 2021 is not another lie and that the media scaremongering will stop so that things can go back to normal.

  • in reply to NAS73898

    keep looking join some clubs and see what happens

  • Thank you all I agree with all of you, i do have a partner but he is not like me and we think very differently which can cause some problems in our relationship but we work through them. I just feel like a crave a friend like you see in the movies but I just don’t understand how it works! 

  • aye i feel the same... at first i didnt mind as i felt mistreated and angry at the world/the rest of humanity but then years of loneliness irons that out and makes you crave some form of normality and camaraderie or a partner at least. the silver lining is that the solitude makes us more tolerant and accepting people, better people who would welcome anyone with open arms due to our starvation of company.

  • NAS73898 said:
    and it feel like no one understands the sensory struggles

    HI there 898,

    I think you'll find that just about everyone on this forum understands your struggles, so you are amongst friends here.

    Anxiety has always been my biggest battle, but I have made good progress.

    I hope your assessment moves along and a diagnosis is made soon;  you might find you feel a whole lot better just knowing it's officially recognised, I know I did.

    Ben

  • thats a long wait which is not good. 

    here is an article on loneiiness read me and tell me if it was any good Slight smile

    www.spectrumnews.org/.../