Fluctuating abilities

I wonder if this is a feature of autism that many people experience, a wide and often sudden fluctuation in the ability to cope with everyday social interactions? As an example, I was posting a valuable watch to a watch repairers the other day. In the post office I was fine, working out with the member of staff what form of postage with insurance would be the best. All went off really smoothly, I think I even made a little joke. Then I went to the local park and had a wander about. It was a hot day and I thought that I would really like an ice cream. There is a tea room in the park that sells ice cream, choc ices etc.. I couldn't make myself go in and interact with the staff in order to purchase an ice cream. Despite knowing that was what the staff were there to do, and that they would be quite happy to sell me whatever I wanted. Then I walked home, ice cream-less, mentally kicking myself for being totally useless.

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  • I definitely get this. I have been putting off making a simple phone call to someone I know to arrange something fun that I've been waiting months or years to do. All is my own choice, they are even experienced with autistic people.

    Just 1 phone call!

    I even have the details all written down ready to say. But... argh!

    But I can occasionally make other phone calls okay, receive them too, occasionally (rarely!) even spontaneously. NOT my favourite communication tool at ALL, but what I mean is... it fluctuates for me too. Day to day, but also dependent on the specific task.

    I'm trying not to beat myself up for the missed time and opportunities and enjoyment while I wait to get the guts to make this phone call.

    When motivation > cost... it'll happen. (Or I'll get creative and find another way around it... !)

  • Demand Avoidance!

    I've had a hate-hate relationship with the phone since the 70s when the family had to gather around for expensive international calls to doddering relatives I'd never met.

  • Yeah, I looked into demand avoidance as I wondered about that, but it didn't quite fit as I don't have that many troubles with it.

    That sounds like a rather gruelling time having to tune into phone calls with people you'd never met!

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