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Feel Trapped by Life

O

I don't really know how to describe this feeling I have, It's just the feeling that I am not suited to the world I live in. I'm doing this course and it's great and it's interesting but at the same time I can't shake the feeling that there is something so wrong with finding a job plonking myself at a desk and that's me for the next 60 years or so,

Then at the same time I have no idea what else I would do because the society is set up in such a way that there isn't much of a choice and if you do operate outside the lines you'll just be considered a weirdo, crackpot, bum. Especially me in my situation with my family because they are all just so straight and narrow and live their lives and have no issues with anything apart from the odd problem that comes up that they have solve. They are happy coasting through life with 30 days a year of freedom from their jobs (if you can call it that because it has to end).

I just feel there is so much more to this 'existence' but I haven't the faintest idea about what else there is and how to get there and feel content. Sometimes I would love to just have simple life I have nice little job with nice little flat or house and just get along like that and other times I want to be able to earn 100s of thousands and live an extravagant life but then I understand what needs to be done do get to that point and that just doesn't seem like fun to me. I want to travel the world but I'm too anxious to do so, I want to be social and go out and have fun but I'm again too anxious to do so and I also have the social skills of rock, I want to find a nice girl that is nice, not a bimbo, has sense, that I find attractive. But I have no idea what women want especially my generation because for them there is no pride in being nice and respectable but it's empowering to just simply be a pain in the 4ss.

I don't know I hate rambling but I wanted to speak to you guys about this. 

Thanks, O 

  • in reply to O
    O said:
    this game only gives you one life and that's it so I need to be careful 

    That's the bummer - only one go and no do-overs.  Smiley

  • in reply to O

    Then that'll limit your choice - gaming is almost exclusively a male hobby and 'cinema' is so generic that you'll meet mainly 'normal' girls who will probably reject you.     I'd suggest you'll be most compatible with a self-aware aspie girl with an outgoing personality and a desire to explore stuff.

    You might want to think about what any potential mate would like in a partner and look for compatible interests.

    There's youtubes I follow about a couple sailing around the world and others doing 'van life' or tiny homes and also the self-sufficient eco-lifestyle.

    Some are clearly aspie.  Smiley

  • in reply to Plastic

    I'm an avid gamer and I like the experience of going to cinema, I love music, but really I don't have any hobbies I'm trying to find something else but not really too sure

  • in reply to O

    Depends what you're into - what hobbies or interests of yours do you think a girl might also be interested in?    You can also think about members of the SI group also have sisters, cousins and friends that you might meet.

  • in reply to aidie

    I get that, life is suffering but find the meaning within your self with what you do is what mitigates that suffering and finding a partner etc etc helps. I do try to think like you in the sense that it's a game but at the same time I think to myself that this game only gives you one life and that's it so I need to be careful 

  • in reply to O

    yes its difficult --- so when it happens just think " ahhhhh having comparison thoughts again". By labelling the thought you disassociate yourself from it. Do not use  "I am having comparison thoughts again"

  • in reply to Plastic

    Are these kind of SI groups on facebook?

    Out of those options, depending on how I feel it could be any of them, sometimes I would love the idea of doing something more physical and interactive but then other times I wouldn't mind having nice little office job in a nice building somewhere, I've done both as well, I worked in food truck  in London doing all the cooking waking up at 4am and not getting back home till 4-4:30 and it was rewarding but then we got shut down because the land owners didn't have the right permission for us to be there (that was annoying) then i went back into an office job and that was nice too because I appreciated the comfort of being in an office and not waking up 4am everyday

  • 3. meaning of life

    thats a biggee --

    in Zen,,, we are taught that everyone has the same life

    birth >>> suffering >>> death

    bit grim really but once u learn to deal better with the suffering life becomes better

    i tend to think of life as a game and play it just like a game its not real afterall

  • in reply to aidie

    You are right but sometimes it's hard not too

  • I totally hear you.      The problem is we are programmed from birth to follow the NT-prescribed lifestyle so breaking away and doing something different requires confidence and bravery.

    I'm at the other end of life - I've not really done office jobs - I've been lucky in that I've spent my life doing strange things in weird working conditions, mostly under no supervision so I've sort-of been my own boss - just with massive responsibilities.

    As for finding a compatible partner, you're more likely to find someone if you join special-interest groups - if you're into the subject, odds are the others will be mostly ASD too so are likely to have similar tastes and goals..

    What do you feel you'd rather do?    Skiing instructor?   Pro Sky-diver?     Farmer?    Eco-build specialist?

  • you have covered multiple issues there

    1 anxiety

    2 comparing yourself to others

    3 meaning of life

    4 job

    5 partner

    i'll reply to 2 because i can right now.   

    Basically never compare yourself to anyone else that is never good. Everyone has problems u just dont know about them.

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