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Projecting behaviours onto others, paranoia, imagination, trust issues, identifying reality

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Hi, my name is Anthony and I am on the autistic spectrum.

Does anyone else with Autistic Spectrum Condition project their behaviours onto other people and/other feel paranoid regarding other people's potential behaviour towards them, due to having trust issues relating to past experiences?

I also find it difficult to identify reality at times, especially when I'm trying to relate to people &/or live in the present, rather than in my imagination. Are these behaviours related to autism or mental health conditions which have not yet been diagnosed? It's really hard for me to be sure either way.

I'd really appreciate answers or opinions to these questions, please. Thanks in advance. Kind regards, Anthony 

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  • I often feel the word 'Trust' is thrown about a bit too much in society. Everyone has 'trust issues', we're animals with instincts, we live in a structured but chaotic and cruel society with little hints of hope occasionally. Life is not a walk in the park. You shouldn't trust anyone which is why defensive driving is taught. Which is why females are taught to always keep their drinks with them at all times. Which is why the accountability and scrutiny of the press exists. And so on. Trust is earned through dependability and steadfastness, through accountability and kindness. If someone choses to invest these things toward you, perhaps then they are worth trusting. 

    I've done a good deal of hunting down how to be trust-worthy and then I have a standard of expectation as I live my expectations daily as best I can. It makes things a little easier when I can identify what is behaviour I can trust and what isn't. We teach our children to look before crossing the road, to not converse with strangers, to put their pennies in a savings account. Most things in life are not afforded my trust, it's not free, it's hard-earned. When I'm focused on becoming and being a dependable human, I'm no longer projecting but setting a bar for my surroundings. You don't have to meet them, but we also don't have to be more than acquaintances :)

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  • I often feel the word 'Trust' is thrown about a bit too much in society. Everyone has 'trust issues', we're animals with instincts, we live in a structured but chaotic and cruel society with little hints of hope occasionally. Life is not a walk in the park. You shouldn't trust anyone which is why defensive driving is taught. Which is why females are taught to always keep their drinks with them at all times. Which is why the accountability and scrutiny of the press exists. And so on. Trust is earned through dependability and steadfastness, through accountability and kindness. If someone choses to invest these things toward you, perhaps then they are worth trusting. 

    I've done a good deal of hunting down how to be trust-worthy and then I have a standard of expectation as I live my expectations daily as best I can. It makes things a little easier when I can identify what is behaviour I can trust and what isn't. We teach our children to look before crossing the road, to not converse with strangers, to put their pennies in a savings account. Most things in life are not afforded my trust, it's not free, it's hard-earned. When I'm focused on becoming and being a dependable human, I'm no longer projecting but setting a bar for my surroundings. You don't have to meet them, but we also don't have to be more than acquaintances :)

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