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social anxiety/ and feeling exhausted in public

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this is the first time i have  spoke about this online, but i hate that i have social anxiety and anxiety do you hate it when you feel anxious and being exhausted in public. just want to feel like im enjoying being around people and i have no friends any more and that hurts. i find it hard to make friends and when i do have friends it makes me feel happy, im trying to forget my friends that hurt me and i need to move on, but some times i think about the past and it makes me feel down just need to get a friend. one day i will have a new friend just have to wait and see. i hope every ones doing ok 

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  • I don't really have friends, but I am friendly. I work in a customer facing role but it's easier to be sociable when I'm talking about work related stuff. When I'm not at work, I'm happier being on my own. I have certain interests, but unfortunately, my current living situation means that I can't pursue it as much as I would like. I'm working towards it though. There is an eco village that I would like to be a part of if they would allow me to join. The small community of people with similar goals to myself is far more appealing than trying to survive in the normal world where I need to deal with so many different people in so many different ways. I'm still not planning on having friends who I choose at the exclusion of all others. I'm happy to drift in and out as it suits without being under pressure that comes from responsibilities of those types of close knit friendships.

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  • I don't really have friends, but I am friendly. I work in a customer facing role but it's easier to be sociable when I'm talking about work related stuff. When I'm not at work, I'm happier being on my own. I have certain interests, but unfortunately, my current living situation means that I can't pursue it as much as I would like. I'm working towards it though. There is an eco village that I would like to be a part of if they would allow me to join. The small community of people with similar goals to myself is far more appealing than trying to survive in the normal world where I need to deal with so many different people in so many different ways. I'm still not planning on having friends who I choose at the exclusion of all others. I'm happy to drift in and out as it suits without being under pressure that comes from responsibilities of those types of close knit friendships.

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  • in reply to Loz
    Loz said:
    I work in a customer facing role but it's easier to be sociable when I'm talking about work related stuff. When I'm not at work, I'm happier being on my own.

    Yep - you're able to play a role - a performance - it has defined rules and objectives - all nice and predictable - we love that sort of thing.

    Interfacing with random people is hard - you have no idea what's coming next.

    If you want friends, the easiest way is to look at your childhood hobbies and find groups into the grown-up version - for example, historic recreationists or sci-fi convention-goers.

    I'd be wary of things like eco-villages - there's an awful lot of people out there with severe mental issues trying to fix the world - and they congregate in activist-linked groups.    Way too risky.

    Have you looked at meetup-com?      People just set up meetings-  pub nights, bowling, lunches, specialist groups etc and you just go along and see if you fit.   It's very low stress-  no commitment.