Is this it?

It's hit the fan between my dad and I big time. HE has army level fitness and is unstable and I am not safe living here.

I'm about to become homeless. I don't know what to do. I don't feel safe anywhere. I have terrible anxiety and don't understand people.

I can't see myself living in a homeless hostel. I also don't want to live in the town I live in anymore. But don't know anywhere else that's worth going to either.

Maybe it's time to finish it all?

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  • Hi Roswell.

    I was once in a similar situation. Due to my inability to look after myself properly and organise my own life when I was younger, I became homeless. I turned to the only place I thought would help - my parents - and my dad told me I could not return home, he wouldn't have me in the house. I had been depressed for years and my immediate thought was to end it all, but (fortunately) I failed in my suicide attempt.

    I was very lucky that another family member took pity on me after that even though she herself was living in a one room bedsit. I slept on the floor under her table for a few weeks while I got back on my feet.

    Is there nobody in your friends or family who might help you? If not, you could try the council. I once worked for the housing department of my local council as a summer job - converting their paper records to digital format.

    I probably shouldn't have but it was difficult not to read the case files whilst I was scanning them. Nearly all of them involved the kinds of things you are dealing with - people having family/relationship problems with their partner or their parents, and finding that they could no longer live at home and being faced with homelessness. The council has a duty to provide help. This could be remediation of the situation with your dad and making sure you are safe, or it could be finding alternative accommodation (though I suspect nowadays this is in very short supply compared to when I worked at the council).

    Admittedly nearly all the cases that actually got help were women, because they get priority, but having autism should also get you up the priority list. How old are you? If you are 16 or under then your parents have a legal responsibility to look after you and make sure you have somewhere safe to stay.

    You can get help from your local council here: https://www.gov.uk/homelessness-help-from-council or search for homelessness on your council website. At the very least, they could give you advice.

    Of course this would be if you stayed in the same town. I don't think other councils are under any obligation to help you if you move somewhere else.

    It's important to remember that any difficult situation you are in is temporary, no matter how bleak it feels. When I have been at my lowest lows it always seemed so hopeless but now I am so glad I am still here.

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  • Hi Roswell.

    I was once in a similar situation. Due to my inability to look after myself properly and organise my own life when I was younger, I became homeless. I turned to the only place I thought would help - my parents - and my dad told me I could not return home, he wouldn't have me in the house. I had been depressed for years and my immediate thought was to end it all, but (fortunately) I failed in my suicide attempt.

    I was very lucky that another family member took pity on me after that even though she herself was living in a one room bedsit. I slept on the floor under her table for a few weeks while I got back on my feet.

    Is there nobody in your friends or family who might help you? If not, you could try the council. I once worked for the housing department of my local council as a summer job - converting their paper records to digital format.

    I probably shouldn't have but it was difficult not to read the case files whilst I was scanning them. Nearly all of them involved the kinds of things you are dealing with - people having family/relationship problems with their partner or their parents, and finding that they could no longer live at home and being faced with homelessness. The council has a duty to provide help. This could be remediation of the situation with your dad and making sure you are safe, or it could be finding alternative accommodation (though I suspect nowadays this is in very short supply compared to when I worked at the council).

    Admittedly nearly all the cases that actually got help were women, because they get priority, but having autism should also get you up the priority list. How old are you? If you are 16 or under then your parents have a legal responsibility to look after you and make sure you have somewhere safe to stay.

    You can get help from your local council here: https://www.gov.uk/homelessness-help-from-council or search for homelessness on your council website. At the very least, they could give you advice.

    Of course this would be if you stayed in the same town. I don't think other councils are under any obligation to help you if you move somewhere else.

    It's important to remember that any difficult situation you are in is temporary, no matter how bleak it feels. When I have been at my lowest lows it always seemed so hopeless but now I am so glad I am still here.

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