Hi.
I'm here because I'd like to talk to people in a similar situation or in a relationship with someone who's brain works differently from theirs.
I have struggled on and off for years with my husband and how cold he can be. He doesn't communicate as I would expect and always thinks I'm criticising (even when I'm making suggestions). We have been having married counselling and it has become apparent that he has a lot of Aspergers traits that suddenly make our whole relationship make so much more sense. I've been doing lots of research into how it can present and I'm 99% sure that's what our communication issue is.
He is burying his head in the sand and doesn't want to get diagnosed. I feel that it would be incredibly helpful for us to get support with what's next. Otherwise, I fear it might end our 10 year relationship. I absolutely don't want that but sometimes the exhaustion and relentlessness gets too much. Maybe we just aren't compatible?
I'm here to learn as much as I can to adjust my behaviour and communicate in a way that is more helpful to him.
During Covid times, its hard to know where to go for support and meet people in a similar situation.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.
