How to confront a co workers language surrounding ASD

Hi,

so basically I’m an autistic adult working within CAMHS (child and adolescent mental health service). My coworkers are all amazing in general and they know I’m autistic as it’s not something I keep very hidden. One of my coworkers has worked with autistic individuals for years and has developed some rather ableist language surrounding autistic people often saying that “it’s all about them” and making other generalisation about this. As someone who is autistic and tends to put others before themselves I find this frustrating and know it’s wrong. I want to better educate my coworker about this but she’s of a higher stance than me and I’m worried she may take it to offence when I genuinely don’t mean any rudeness by it but rather more that if I feel this way how do our young people feel? We’re so used to using stereotyped language and assuming there’s no one around to hear it. I otherwise get on really well with this coworker and she has been a great support to me and is a great nurse with great experience but her language is outdated and ableist. Any advice? Am I over reacting?
thanks

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  • I've been in this situation but with people I didn't know so I just said nothing. A person in a meeting basically said that you can't get a word in with someone autistic and they give longwinded explanations for everything. I wasn't diagnosed at the time but was being assessed, so I didnt know how to challenge it without getting emotional about it so I didnt say anything. 

    Ironic really that I stayed quiet when they were saying we are basically pedantic and wordy... 

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  • I've been in this situation but with people I didn't know so I just said nothing. A person in a meeting basically said that you can't get a word in with someone autistic and they give longwinded explanations for everything. I wasn't diagnosed at the time but was being assessed, so I didnt know how to challenge it without getting emotional about it so I didnt say anything. 

    Ironic really that I stayed quiet when they were saying we are basically pedantic and wordy... 

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