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NAS73375

Hello everyone,  I have just joined as I need some guidance and to be honest this is scary.  I have not been diagnosed although recent reading and on line indicators suggest I am on the Autistic spectrum somewhere.  I am struggling at present and need to find a way forward.  My mind has always been my strength and during my career have enjoyed taking on problems that others have shied away form as not possible.  However a couple of months ago I was promoted to Director in the Charity I work with and now my work is at least 50% meetings plus dealing with people (I look after finance, systems, HR, governance and H & S).  I have realised I no longer have my bolt hole of spread sheets, financial modelling or analysis to hide in while I recharge my batteries. Many years ago I had the opportunity to partake in Myers Briggs test which taught me that whilst I was introverted I could summon up the energy to do more extrovert things, for a short while.  Now I need batteries to be full all the time. Yes I am now declining in mental health and worry I cannot do my job or will have a meltdown.

There are other things in life which challenge me socially but work is the big one at present.  I hope to retire in about a year's time.  Is there a director on this forum who appreciates what I am saying here and can perhaps give me some tips / ideas to help me manage myself.

Thank you and apologies if I have wasted anyone's time.

G

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  • Not a director I'm afraid. But I am also waiting on assessment so I understand what it's like to be in limbo. I'm still learning, and others could offer you more advice, but one thing that has helped me, is keeping a routine for the things I can control. That way I have to expend less energy on everything else and I can put more energy into dealing with people socially. If you can choose to have meetings where you know about the topic being discussed rather than having a meeting sprung on you at the last minute, that can help you prepare mentally. Mindfullness is always helpful. As is meditation. Buddhism is a good way to found out both of these things. Finally, I keep a bullet journal. It was created by a guy called Ryder Carroll and has helped me to put things in order in my head. I believe he is also on the spectrum so what he's created is something you can adapt for your specific needs. Hope this helps. Good luck with your current position. I'm sure that you will do amazing things for your charity.

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    Thank you Loz.  Some good thoughts there, differentiating between meetings I am comfortable and preventing sprung meetings is a good idea. Not tried meditation, although have a very healthy respect for Buddhists who always seem to appear calm and in control. Mere fact you replied is a help - thank you.

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    I always find it contains a lot of practical advice. There are a lot of guided meditations on youtube. it's often a good place to start. I quite enjoy listening to the talks you get from the monks and nuns. Even something as basic as 'happiness'. Often they have a meditation at the end so by the time they have finished the talk, I've been listening and am therefore more calm so by the time I do the meditation, I'm used to how they talk and it's easier to go through the meditation. Plus it's always nice to learn something about happiness Slight smile

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    I always find it contains a lot of practical advice. There are a lot of guided meditations on youtube. it's often a good place to start. I quite enjoy listening to the talks you get from the monks and nuns. Even something as basic as 'happiness'. Often they have a meditation at the end so by the time they have finished the talk, I've been listening and am therefore more calm so by the time I do the meditation, I'm used to how they talk and it's easier to go through the meditation. Plus it's always nice to learn something about happiness Slight smile

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