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Marriage and Autism

CanadianGirl

Are there any other married people here?

I have a lot of difficulty communicating with my husband. Even after 15 years, I cannot really tell him how I am feeling about things. It's strange.. I can arrange the words in my head, and plan what to say, but then when I open my mouth absolutely nothing comes out. I just freeze. It's like the words are either stuck or have disappeared. 

He of course gets very frustrated with this. My husband is excellent at communicating how he feels about things. He is really good at reading people and all that kind of stuff. So when it comes time for us to have a serious conversation about something, he gets very frustrated when I can't talk. In the past, he would just keep pushing me until I got angry enough to just explode. He pats himself on the back for this, claiming that he's finally gotten me to share my feelings / the truth. Except.. the things I eventually would blurt out were maybe not really accurate, or incomplete. Something I could never communicate to him.

I have gotten a bit better over the last few years, but this is still something we struggle with. I'm just wondering if there's anyone one there who has any "tricks" to get through this?

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  • I'm not marries for as long as you are, but I'm really struggling. My husband doesn't take me serious in how I feel about certain things and why I act the way I do. I try to explain myself and he either starts to talk about himself and dismisses me completely or he listens to me when I tell him I need certain things to be done a certain way, it seems he understands and 10 minutes later he acts like I never said anything and does things "wrong" again. It is really frustrating and stressful for me and atm I think he is really not good for me. I'm thinking a lot about to end it with him, but there are so many factors that freak me out and in the end I just keep to myself and try to ignore certain things. But it doesn't feel good having to act like that. 

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  • I'm not marries for as long as you are, but I'm really struggling. My husband doesn't take me serious in how I feel about certain things and why I act the way I do. I try to explain myself and he either starts to talk about himself and dismisses me completely or he listens to me when I tell him I need certain things to be done a certain way, it seems he understands and 10 minutes later he acts like I never said anything and does things "wrong" again. It is really frustrating and stressful for me and atm I think he is really not good for me. I'm thinking a lot about to end it with him, but there are so many factors that freak me out and in the end I just keep to myself and try to ignore certain things. But it doesn't feel good having to act like that. 

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