Published on 12, July, 2020
I have Aspergers, and have been talking to someone I like as a friend (and also secretly fancy!) on Instagram, and it's been going well. I also followed them on TikTok and liked some of their posts, but they haven't followed me back. I have been really nervous about this, and am scared that our relationship is fake or less somehow because of this. I know that they haven't posted again since I followed them, but then I remembered whenever someone follows me on TikTok I'm notified on the home-screen of my phone, so I got scared and thought "What if they have seen my follow and likes, why haven't they followed me back?". I've been trying to separate the anxiety from myself (like labelling it), as I know it is irrational. Do you guys go through similar anxieties, and how do you deal with it?
i dont have a phone.
you think
" having an anxious thought about x not following me " (no "I" ) that labels the thought and separates it from you but i do this in a 30 min meditation each day watching all thoughts
"Me" isn't separate to you though. I hate CBT techniques.
it is a zen technique --- but i am also reading a mystic book and they do same thing as well. I have no experience of CBT
Removing the I doesn't make this statement any less related to thoughts about themselves because of the me.
CBT must be very mystical and zen. It follows this same approach. CBT isn't very good for autistic people. My assessor sent me an article about it as I have had both CBT and person-centred therapy previously.