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Relationship issue

Ellie 567

Hello 

I am wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. I am diagnosed with High Functioning Autism and I have been with my partner now for around 4 years. An issue that I note that occurs is that I suddenly lose interest in my partner and has me thinking I no longer want to be with them anymore. This can happen seemingly out of the blue but I think a lot of it is to do with being bored. I don’t talk to my partner about it because I don’t want to hurt his feelings, I just wondered if this was to do with my autism. 

i also note I have this with my obsessions in that I would be interested in one thing, and then suddenly I get bored and am no longer interested. So I think this might be related to my relationship somehow. Has anyone else had this experience with their relationships? Any advice would be really appreciated 

many thanks 

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  • I am the same way with interests. Take a strong interest in one thing then the next week or month it's a different thing. I used to feel sad that I didn't have a special interest like a lot of people are then realised it works for me because I'm always learning new things.

    With the relationship I've faced a similar issues. I think because I had new interests regularly they couldn't keep up and I noticed that when talking about my interests they didn't care so much (or at least I felt that way) there was no back and forth of any kind. I felt like I was boring which made me feel like the relationship was at a stand still. You should communicate with your partner and express how you feel. If you both feel the same or different it will be such an eye opener and you can work on it.

    You don't want to end up throwing away great relationships so communication is key. Worrying about hurting his feelings you might be surprised that he isn't hurt or he might be but he will appreciate the honesty after. He would want you happy too.

    The way I get with people and things are different. I like to build strong relationships with individuals but things or topics I don't see the same.

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  • I am the same way with interests. Take a strong interest in one thing then the next week or month it's a different thing. I used to feel sad that I didn't have a special interest like a lot of people are then realised it works for me because I'm always learning new things.

    With the relationship I've faced a similar issues. I think because I had new interests regularly they couldn't keep up and I noticed that when talking about my interests they didn't care so much (or at least I felt that way) there was no back and forth of any kind. I felt like I was boring which made me feel like the relationship was at a stand still. You should communicate with your partner and express how you feel. If you both feel the same or different it will be such an eye opener and you can work on it.

    You don't want to end up throwing away great relationships so communication is key. Worrying about hurting his feelings you might be surprised that he isn't hurt or he might be but he will appreciate the honesty after. He would want you happy too.

    The way I get with people and things are different. I like to build strong relationships with individuals but things or topics I don't see the same.

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