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Don't think I miss social cues? Adult female diagnosis

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Hello everyone,

I am on the waiting list for assessment as a 35 year old woman. I have many autistic traits and do believe I am autistic; however, I feel that I am quite good at picking up on social cues. I don't think I have much trouble reading another person's body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, understanding sarcasm. In fact, I think I may be oversensitive to these things. The only thing that I think I found difficult when I was younger was telling if somebody liked me. It wouldn't be obvious to me until somebody actually told me. Of course it may be that I just don't know how bad I am at reading social cues because maybe it's the subtler things that I miss that don't cause much of a problem? I am not much of a socialiser anyway as I find it pretty exhausting.

When it comes to my communication I think things are worse for me. I speak too softly, am terrible with making small talk, my body language and facial expression tells everyone exactly how I am feeling. In group situations I often shut down completely, and when I try to lie it can be quite obvious. 

Could it be that I have just learned to read social cues with experience? Has anyone here been diagnosed who feels that they are actually quite good at reading social cues?

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  • Hi there,

    This post could have been written by me! I was diagnosed at 31 (end of 2019) and can so relate to everything you've said. I feel like, particularly as women, sometimes we learn the rules so well that it feels like we always knew them, if that makes sense. But I think that the other symptoms you've got certainly suggest it's worth pursuing a diagnosis (please do prepare yourself, though, that the diagnostic process is quite emotionally taxing and self-care is key).

    Not everybody is going to have all the symptoms to a high intensity. You'll find a lot of people on the spectrum who will very much be able to relate to what you've said, particularly women (although of course that's a generalisation and many autistic men mask too). You get good at learning through experience when masking.

    You're definitely not alone!

    Take care x

  • in reply to Giraffe

    Hi Giraffe, thanks for your reply and sorry for the late reply. Thanks, that's really helpful to know. Can I ask in what way did you find the process emotionally taxing? I am on a long waiting list now and it will likely take more than a year to get seen but am already quite nervous about the whole thing. Thank you x

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  • in reply to Giraffe

    Hi Giraffe, thanks for your reply and sorry for the late reply. Thanks, that's really helpful to know. Can I ask in what way did you find the process emotionally taxing? I am on a long waiting list now and it will likely take more than a year to get seen but am already quite nervous about the whole thing. Thank you x

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