Don't think I miss social cues? Adult female diagnosis

Hello everyone,

I am on the waiting list for assessment as a 35 year old woman. I have many autistic traits and do believe I am autistic; however, I feel that I am quite good at picking up on social cues. I don't think I have much trouble reading another person's body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, understanding sarcasm. In fact, I think I may be oversensitive to these things. The only thing that I think I found difficult when I was younger was telling if somebody liked me. It wouldn't be obvious to me until somebody actually told me. Of course it may be that I just don't know how bad I am at reading social cues because maybe it's the subtler things that I miss that don't cause much of a problem? I am not much of a socialiser anyway as I find it pretty exhausting.

When it comes to my communication I think things are worse for me. I speak too softly, am terrible with making small talk, my body language and facial expression tells everyone exactly how I am feeling. In group situations I often shut down completely, and when I try to lie it can be quite obvious. 

Could it be that I have just learned to read social cues with experience? Has anyone here been diagnosed who feels that they are actually quite good at reading social cues?

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  • I am also an adult female on the waiting list for assessment. I think I am quite good at picking up social cues. However I sometimes have trouble responding in the correct way. E.g. if someone is crying I can see that they are upset but I somehow can't do the right body language and tone of voice to seem sympathetic. Also, it's definitely possible that I miss subtle cues without ever realising.

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  • I am also an adult female on the waiting list for assessment. I think I am quite good at picking up social cues. However I sometimes have trouble responding in the correct way. E.g. if someone is crying I can see that they are upset but I somehow can't do the right body language and tone of voice to seem sympathetic. Also, it's definitely possible that I miss subtle cues without ever realising.

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