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Verbal Communication & Social Interaction .

Turtle

Hi all,

I'm in between deciding whether to get a NHS or private assessment and self-doubt has crept in. I have read that Autists will have experienced problems with verbal communication or social interaction. Is this true for those of you who have been diagnosed ? I've never had any speech problems although I may have had problems communicating how I felt at times in my youth and with shyness but I don't think that would be considered anything major or out of the ordinary for many people. 

I don't recall major problems with social interaction either but I have masked and internalised a lot and had self-coping mechanisms for most of my life along with other traits associated with ASD. 

I'm curious to know others thoughts on the verbal communication & social interaction criteria for assessment. Are these the major indicators ?

Thanks.

Parents

  • Yes they are major indicators ,i had speech therapy, my children did to , talking is a real strain ,long silences ,not knowing what to say , was alright with people i knew as a child ,but exhausting having to talk .I have really tried to do the chatting thing ,but am just hopeless at it .  There are various areas ,some people are worst in different areas ,my nephew was diagnosed with adhd and aspergers  very violent ,my daughter was diagnosed with aspergers very quiet.

    I worry about going for an assessment , i think as soon as i open up about my childhood they are going to blame that, it's a really stressful thing to decide , there is the perception that if you pay privately you get a better service but not always the case ,could be the same doctor in fact  .    

  • in reply to mael
    mael said:
    I worry about going for an assessment , i think as soon as i open up about my childhood they are going to blame that, it's a really stressful thing to decide ,

    But doesn't the environment play a big part in the causes too ? I think I read Gabor Mate saying the genes are open to go one way or another with the environment being a factor in that. There are also many diagnosed ASD and Adverse childhood experiences ( ACE ). I think I also read that parents don't need to be fully on the spectrum to pass those certain genes on. 

  • in reply to Turtle

    my father was 100% on the spectrum ,he was an mod electrical draughtsman ,he used to oversee the instillation of missile guidance systems ,sea wolf ,polaris ,i remember going on a open day round a type 22 frigate,he had loads of offers of promotion but never took them as it would of meant moving, every mealtime had to be exactly on time ,he had major ocd and he would sit for hours studying the Ceefax share prices .He only spoke to me 3 times other then abusive put downs,  he would explode when the pressure got to much ,which my mother could manipulate towards me.  I used to keep away from them ,eat on my own ,go out all day from about 9 / 10 years old, when i was young he used to put me to bed and hold a pillow over my head until i pass out ,i thought it was a game ,i had to struggle and get free, so i would stay still to let him win ,but you always struggle before you pass out . I didn't realise it wasn't a game until i was 17 . There was some bad stuff .the best way i can describe it is there is a dark cloud in my head that makes a wall ,it is full of terror and pain and memories ,if  i get to close to it i start shutting down ,shaking and rocking and not being able to breath ,just blind panic .so frankly being really honest to a doctor about me scares the hell out of me ,There so going to ask me about my childhood .  I suppose i just say i can't handle talking about it and just tell them a few bits i have been able to deal with like the pillow thing .  

  • in reply to Turtle

    Yeh it remember hearing something about it releases a protein or something ,i used to do river swimming and alot of running when i was younger,my eldest did a 100 mile race last year.I don't think i would ever get that fit again but it would be nice to be fitter.

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