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for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

aidie

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

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  • I don't know that I agree. You can't fix a problem until you really know what a problem is. And sometimes there is a moment when after years of trying so many different things you realise you are not the problem. The situation you find yourself in is not merely indifferent to your aspirations it actively opposes them. And then you start quoting hamlet "To be, or not to be? That is the question. Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or to take arms against a sea of troubles, and, by opposing, end them?" Because if others really are to blame you have a choice, you can sit in a little pity party and give up trying to fix the broken things that frustrate you so. Or you can choose the path of conflict and 'take arms against a sea of troubles.' Maybe the real criticism we should have of ourselves as autistic people is not that we blame others for limiting our opportunities but that we've been too conflict adverse when they do.

  • in reply to Peter

    Zen teaches u that the solution is within you at all times its never anywhere else !

    Zen says, everyone is pure and good,,  you just have to remove/quiet/see through the bad thoughts  and thinking ( imposed by society etc, and created by your own mind "the ego" ) to return to the real you

    to people who say "take up arms", I say you go ahead, you do it.

    But dont use, or encourage,  the vulnerable, or anyone i know,  to do it for you

    Zen says ---- your views are allowed you are just on the wrong path Slight smile

    Zen just gave me a headache, lol,,, it is so difficult,   coming from a background/upbringing of pure violence to that of pure peace with life and the universe  ( equanimity )

  • in reply to aidie

    Well I come from a christian tradition so take a different view. As we like to remind people if you ask what would Jesus do remember chasing you with a whip is on the list of options. You don't have to hate people to seek conflict with them, just to recognise there is a situation that won't be resolved without conflict. Passive self sacrifice is noble, if it serves some higher purpose or is protecting someone. If it's merely a means of escaping conflict for an easy life then its ultimately self serving.

  • in reply to Peter

    Yes, but did any of these people who are so quick to judge (on whatever it may be) ever had to endure what the people their judging on had to? I do believe in walking a mile in someone else's shoes before making a judgement on them.

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