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for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

aidie

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

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  • Well, I'm not about to spend my life blaming others, but it still feels useful to assign appropriate blame where others (individuals, groups, organisations or cutlures) have clearly acted against us.  Otherwise we might immerse ourselves in a whole rake of therapies, meditations and self-improvment strategies when actually there's a need for action, education and campaigning with a view to social change.  

    I'm not saying that therapies, mindfulness and other approaches haren't helpful, mind you, rather that the onus isn't just on us as individuals to "better ourselves" and that maybe some of our perfectly understandable responses to trauma and victimisation should be channelled, collectively, against the (often unwitting) perpetrators.  

    See the whole game.       

  • in reply to Jenny Butterfly

    zen says opposite by blaming others u do damage to yourself. Its ok u have a choice and u are welcome to stay the way u are.

    thanks for contributing to my discussion

  • in reply to aidie

    A wise man once said: When the only tool you have is a hammer, then everything takes on quite a Nail like aspect. 

    Zen along with a few other organised systems of human ideals seeks to be more of a leatherman multi-tool than a hammer, to be fair, but sometimes if you haven't got an oscilloscope, you can't fix it.

    An oscilloscope of course is a tool that sits idle like many others, occupying space and being of no use...

    Perhaps I shouldn't pick at this metaphor too much, in case it leaves a nasty scar.. :c)

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  • in reply to aidie

    A wise man once said: When the only tool you have is a hammer, then everything takes on quite a Nail like aspect. 

    Zen along with a few other organised systems of human ideals seeks to be more of a leatherman multi-tool than a hammer, to be fair, but sometimes if you haven't got an oscilloscope, you can't fix it.

    An oscilloscope of course is a tool that sits idle like many others, occupying space and being of no use...

    Perhaps I shouldn't pick at this metaphor too much, in case it leaves a nasty scar.. :c)

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