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for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

aidie

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    I have listened to Dr Rangan Chaterjee talk to Gabor Mate a couple of times and think it is very insightful except that I think my childhood was pretty good (apart from my mum dying when I was 14) so I can't see how it has affected what I do/feel nowadays.

  • in reply to BJS

    I'm sorry to hear that but yes I too had a good upbringing. I got from the video,  that it is also to to do with self esteem. In the example given thst we immediately go for the outcome or answer or reason which affects us personslly. Something I've learned over the past few years is to TRY to see the bigger picture (eg someone might be having a bad day which is why they are being mean rather than they don't like you) also that people have their own reasons and intentions for doing things and I have no control over that.

    I think for autistic people, some/many have low self esteem due to how they have been treated by others and can immediately jump to the most negative outcome of a situation which feels personal rather than looking at other possibilities. 

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  • in reply to BJS

    I'm sorry to hear that but yes I too had a good upbringing. I got from the video,  that it is also to to do with self esteem. In the example given thst we immediately go for the outcome or answer or reason which affects us personslly. Something I've learned over the past few years is to TRY to see the bigger picture (eg someone might be having a bad day which is why they are being mean rather than they don't like you) also that people have their own reasons and intentions for doing things and I have no control over that.

    I think for autistic people, some/many have low self esteem due to how they have been treated by others and can immediately jump to the most negative outcome of a situation which feels personal rather than looking at other possibilities. 

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