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for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

aidie

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

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  • In the past couple of weeks i have discovered Autism and have had decades of Mental health professionals not considering it as an option or even mentioning the name to me .. so we are where we are, but shouldn't the professionals in mental health be less useless and not waste decades of peoples lives through that incompetence? Sorry i'm trying to move things on from a new positive base which I discovered even though they have lost me decades of my life on the way to my inquiry, research and realization.

  • in reply to Rich

    Exactly.  They SHOULD be less useless and a 1/2 days training on autism awareness isn't going to fix this.  If they at least asked for feedback and seemed willing learn things could improve but as it stands (low funding/low awareness/little that is autism-friendly) there seem to be too many roadblocks to improvements.  I'm now very reluctant to seek help or support from the NHS or council.  All it does is push me through a whole series of hoops with only minimal "unhelpful help" at the end of it.  

    NB  for me it feels quite useful to assign blame where I feel it belongs because then I won't keep making the same mistakes and assuming "expertise" where there is none. 

  • in reply to Jenny Butterfly

    A guy once stood outside a venue where a bunch of trickcyclists were meeting to discuss cutting edge psychiatry.

    He asked them this simple question as they were leaving. "Have you ever successfully "fixed" anyone?"

    Turned out that none of them had...

    And I am very much liking the cut of your jib JennyButterfly... I'd like to see some of these people being paid by results, not acquisition of qualifications myself, along with oncologists, and a few other overly expensive "useless eaters".

  • in reply to Jenny Butterfly

    thanks for contributing to my discussion

  • in reply to aidie

    Fair blame can be useful I think, even if it's just vented as a warning to others.  Why not hold psychiatrists accountable?  We have responsibilities to ourselves and our various ways of dealing with these, but I think there can also be wisdom in discerning when to go inwards and when to throw stuff outwards.  e.g.  If I have a bad experience with psychiatry, why not vent, throw it out there and share with interested others?   I can still drill down, reflect, meditate and keep myself psychologically healthy, after all.    

  • in reply to Jenny Butterfly

    u always have a choice

    but

    thanks for contributing to my discussion

  • in reply to I Sperg

    Not sure how is this useful to anyone in here ?

    but,

    thanks for contributing to my discussion

  • in reply to I Sperg

    To continue an analogy from the Likely Lads, in the chocolate box of life I'm getting better at choosing the ones I like and enjoy, the ones which will add to my sense of wellbeing.  I keep things under review but as things stand I tend to avoid the Psychiatric Nougat and the Welfare Surprise.   

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