for all people suffering ,,,,,stop blaming others,,,,,,, zen

We humans can spend our life blaming other people , circumstances, or our bad luck and thinking about the way life should have been.

We can die that way if we want. That's our privilege, but it's not much fun.

We have to open up to the enormous game going on ( Life ),  that we're part of with all other humans, and species.

Until we see through the game that doesn't work ( blaming others ), we don't play the real game ( experience your life directly ).

Some people never see though it and die without ever having lived.

That's too bad.

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  • To general .

    Blame is the action of accountability, which is the start of change .  The problems come from blaming the wrong thing /person . What most people struggle with is the feelings that come from blame like anger and frustration .[which are the feelings that can do damage and  need to be allowed to let go of ].

    So i think blame is needed , understanding why something has happened helps to allow the correct use of blame and the natural series of events / emotions to follow .  even if the blame lies with ones self.  

  • So i think blame is needed , understanding why something has happened helps to allow the correct use of blame and the natural series of events / emotions to follow .  even if the blame lies with ones self.  

    Yes - I'm an engineer - my professional opinion costs people a lot of money and if I'm asked to analyse a system and find the failure points, then the 'blame' may come down to 'Joe' being rubbish at his job.         Finding a healthy way forward once the failure is identified fixes the problem.

    Saying everything is no-one's fault seems a bit simplistic.

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  • So i think blame is needed , understanding why something has happened helps to allow the correct use of blame and the natural series of events / emotions to follow .  even if the blame lies with ones self.  

    Yes - I'm an engineer - my professional opinion costs people a lot of money and if I'm asked to analyse a system and find the failure points, then the 'blame' may come down to 'Joe' being rubbish at his job.         Finding a healthy way forward once the failure is identified fixes the problem.

    Saying everything is no-one's fault seems a bit simplistic.

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