Moving house

Hello everyone, 

Just wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar situation? I still live at home with my mum and the past few years have become increasingly difficult for her to keep the family home going especially considering I can't contribute as I am one of the 78% of unemployed people with autism. Anyway she was sadly forced into selling and today we finally moved. I left behind the only home I have ever known (we lived abroad for about 5 years when I was very young but kept the house and rented it out). I've really been dreading it all happening and kind of hoped in some distant fairytale land that some how it wouldn't happen. But now it has and I've struggled so much today. I've been crying every few minutes and I am NOT a crier. Ever. I'm just really really struggling with it all. I'm guessing my ASD and the whole resistance to change thing is playing a part here but I feel like such a wally. People move house all the time and its really not a big deal. I know my friends and family are there for me but I don't feel like I can really talk to them about how much I hate this because there are so many very much worse things in the world. Don't get me wrong, I fully understand, especially given the last year, that things could be a lot worse and I am very grateful for what I do have. I also know that in time it will get easier and I just need to get used to it all but at the moment I'm struggling to see past it all. I spent the majority of my 30 years in that house with the same neighbours, the same everything. And because mum was forced into selling she had to find somewhere quick so our new house is far from ideal and neither of us are particularly excited by the prospect. 

Has anyone else ever struggled with having to move house? 

Sophie 

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  • i see this is an old thread but this might help anyone moving house:

    i completely get you. i moved house in october and it was incredibly difficult as i hate changes which is a common thing for people on the spectrum. 

    i was very low and i'm still stuck in a relapse because of it all. this happened last time i moved house as well except the difference was that i actually loved this house we just moved from in october. it was where we had lockdown and so i started going on walks in my area (which i never stopped) and i loved the area and it was something which relaxed me esp with my chaotic emotions and constant mental health crises. throughout that time, i slowly got better as i started therapy etc etc but because it was where i had went through a lot and really started healing from past trauma, i really didn't want to move house. i still miss it a lot now. i now live with more people and i rarely get peace because everyone talks so much and it can feel so overwhelming. 

    some things which i did that helped:

    - just being kind with myself. i tried to push myself to be productive etc at first but that's not good. accept that it's hard and validate your feelings. this isn't stupid- it's a big change which esp people on the spectrum find hard

    - i found a new route in my area for walking (sure i had lots in my old area and didn't even have set ones by the end because i knew every loop possible) which feels comforting i guess

    - listening to music 

    basically find a way to release your emotions

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  • i see this is an old thread but this might help anyone moving house:

    i completely get you. i moved house in october and it was incredibly difficult as i hate changes which is a common thing for people on the spectrum. 

    i was very low and i'm still stuck in a relapse because of it all. this happened last time i moved house as well except the difference was that i actually loved this house we just moved from in october. it was where we had lockdown and so i started going on walks in my area (which i never stopped) and i loved the area and it was something which relaxed me esp with my chaotic emotions and constant mental health crises. throughout that time, i slowly got better as i started therapy etc etc but because it was where i had went through a lot and really started healing from past trauma, i really didn't want to move house. i still miss it a lot now. i now live with more people and i rarely get peace because everyone talks so much and it can feel so overwhelming. 

    some things which i did that helped:

    - just being kind with myself. i tried to push myself to be productive etc at first but that's not good. accept that it's hard and validate your feelings. this isn't stupid- it's a big change which esp people on the spectrum find hard

    - i found a new route in my area for walking (sure i had lots in my old area and didn't even have set ones by the end because i knew every loop possible) which feels comforting i guess

    - listening to music 

    basically find a way to release your emotions

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