Adult female diagnosis - mum doesn't think I had many childhood traits

Hello. I am an adult female (35) and think I might be autistic and have self-referred to my local autism service. They sent me 3 questionnaires to fill so I did mine (the EQ and AQ tests) which came out with a high likelihood of autism. But my mum filled out the CAST questionnaire for childhood autistic behaviours/traits and I scored quite low on that and my score indicated low or no autistic traits. I have just posted these off and am now waiting to hear.

I am wondering if this will affect the chances of me getting diagnosed with autism. I am worried that based on this CAST questionnaire I will be refused an appointment for diagnosis. My mum just seems to think I was a quiet and shy little girl but that I did very well in school, had no learning disabilities, had friends and had no problems with eye contact, strange behaviours, adherence to routines, etc. I just think my mum probably can't remember what I was like as I am 35 now and it's probably all a bit hazy, either that or she just didn't think any behaviours I did have were unusual (when actually they were!). I also think that the CAST questionnaire focusses on stereotypically male autistic traits.

I think I have so many autistic traits now as an adult woman (including social anxiety, general anxiety, obsessions, rigid thinking, resistance to change, and problems sticking to education and employment) that I am very doubtful that I had so few traits as a child.

Does anybody here have any experience of adult female diagnosis and problems with the developmental history part, especially perhaps with parents not thinking you are autistic or that you had any traits as a child? Would a low CAST score on its own be enough to refuse a diagnosis appointment or do they take into account current traits?

Thanks!

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  • My mum is long gone, but wouldn't have supported me in assessment if she was here. She'd take the idea that I had difficulties as a massive personal insult & criticism. She never accepted that she ever did anything wrong, when in reality she was a poor parent who put her own relationship with my dad above anything else & threw me out at 16, despite my extremely vulnerable state.

    To an outsider, she appeared to be the perfect mother, because she'd do anything for anyone, to the detriment of her own family. She had us walking the next-door neighbours dogs several times a day & made them Christmas dinner, which she changed the timing of by 3 hours to suit theim. I found this bizarre, because she was doing them a favour but allowed them to dictate terms.

    For all her helping the neighbours etc, she wouldn't do a damn thing for me, no matter how small & if I dare turn up at her house at anything other than our usual allotted time she made me feel so unwelcome she may as well have told me to *** off.

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  • My mum is long gone, but wouldn't have supported me in assessment if she was here. She'd take the idea that I had difficulties as a massive personal insult & criticism. She never accepted that she ever did anything wrong, when in reality she was a poor parent who put her own relationship with my dad above anything else & threw me out at 16, despite my extremely vulnerable state.

    To an outsider, she appeared to be the perfect mother, because she'd do anything for anyone, to the detriment of her own family. She had us walking the next-door neighbours dogs several times a day & made them Christmas dinner, which she changed the timing of by 3 hours to suit theim. I found this bizarre, because she was doing them a favour but allowed them to dictate terms.

    For all her helping the neighbours etc, she wouldn't do a damn thing for me, no matter how small & if I dare turn up at her house at anything other than our usual allotted time she made me feel so unwelcome she may as well have told me to *** off.

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