"Just be yourself"

One of the hardest things I've found is to truly feel comfortable in social situations. You could attribute this to my Aspergers, social anxiety or just being a shy person in general - I'm not sure what the exact reason is, but real life friendships seem hard to forge.

I think I'm stuck assuming the worst - I know I'm a very introverted geeky person, with many aspects that "the real world" would find strange. I spend most of my time online, I'm bisexual and have a long distance boyfriend in Chicago, I'm part of the brony/furry communities, I love to embrace my feminine side. Yet when I meet strangers irl, or even in the workplace, I feel like I have to hide these things to avoid judgement.

I've gotten better about it - I've travelled the world, been to conventions and made a lot of online connections into a physical thing. I've tried to be more open about who I am once I got through education. I've met so many accepting and loving people. But there's still a grip it has on me, and I can't help but feel how many social opportunities I've missed out on.

Does anyone else feel similar?

Parents
  • Yes, massively. People say just be yourself and you'll be fine. If i was being myself I wouldn't leave the house and I'd be in my room reading books for most of the day. But oh well, I've got a bit of a life now. Women can pick up on this straight away. They know when you aren't being yourself. Masking helps for a while but it's hard to keep up the pretence constantly. 

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  • Yes, massively. People say just be yourself and you'll be fine. If i was being myself I wouldn't leave the house and I'd be in my room reading books for most of the day. But oh well, I've got a bit of a life now. Women can pick up on this straight away. They know when you aren't being yourself. Masking helps for a while but it's hard to keep up the pretence constantly. 

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