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Single, bought a house that needs work before becoming habitable...

NAS69901

Hey all,

Last year I bought a house to try to escape still living with my parents in my 30s. I was hoping to move in very soon after getting the keys, but I began finding problem after problem that I figured would need fixing before I move in. 6 months later and there’s barely any change to the house, bar gutting it out almost entirely.

Due to my social anxiety, I’m struggling to find the strength to even make calls to builders so they can come look and give me advice and quotes. I even have an experienced builder in the family but am struggling for the strength to contact them too.

I’ve been in despair about the whole ordeal and am close to despair yet again as i just can’t seem to move in any direction with it.

Just wondering if there’s support for people going through this who likely have autism but are undiagnosed, which is probably what I am.

Thanks to any of you for taking the time to respond.

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  • Hiya

    Sorry to hear you're in this situation - my friend is in a similar position.

    What skills do you have?    What tools do you have?     How big is the job?      Decorating or major work?

    Have you listed out all the individual jobs?     If you can grasp the scale of the project, you can separate the jobs into 3 lists - ones you can get straight on with, ones you are lacking either skills or tools and then the left-overs are things you need to pay for.

    Once you have the list you can immediately start on, look at the quickest and easiest jobs to give you some fast success - and a shorter list!  Smiley

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  • Hiya

    Sorry to hear you're in this situation - my friend is in a similar position.

    What skills do you have?    What tools do you have?     How big is the job?      Decorating or major work?

    Have you listed out all the individual jobs?     If you can grasp the scale of the project, you can separate the jobs into 3 lists - ones you can get straight on with, ones you are lacking either skills or tools and then the left-overs are things you need to pay for.

    Once you have the list you can immediately start on, look at the quickest and easiest jobs to give you some fast success - and a shorter list!  Smiley

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