Can anyone recommend support options please? (BPD/EUPD)

I also have a diagnosis of BPD as well as autism! Like yourself, I also can't meditate. I find that painting/drawing or walks in nature help to calm my mind and make me feel more present.

Hello and thank you.  Mediation is a nightmare but too frequently cited (although a friend with BPD and ADHD finds it really helpful).  I actually tried art therapy late last year but the therapist refused to work with me after two sessions due as she said she didn't want the responsibility (possibly also because I am not good at art!).  I do take loads of photos when out running, mostly of the same thing, so maybe I should work out how I can use these.  It's quite hard as I work 10-12 hours a day, 6 days a week and my one day off is usually due to exhaustion, or doing something 'daft' to cope, so I spend it in my PJ's.  I am trying to find something and am happy to pay if reasonable rates to help me get over the MBT, but even looking for this is exhausting.  I had a GP call today and they had no idea what to offer; have to wonder why this is so difficult for the NHS to understand.  Maybe we need to set something up for people who have both personality disorder and autism?

Hello and thank you.  Mediation is a nightmare but too frequently cited (although a friend with BPD and ADHD finds it really helpful).  I actually tried art therapy late last year but the therapist refused to work with me after two sessions due as she said she didn't want the responsibility (possibly also because I am not good at art!).  I do take loads of photos when out running, mostly of the same thing, so maybe I should work out how I can use these.  It's quite hard as I work 10-12 hours a day, 6 days a week and my one day off is usually due to exhaustion, or doing something 'daft' to cope, so I spend it in my PJ's.  I am trying to find something and am happy to pay if reasonable rates to help me get over the MBT, but even looking for this is exhausting.  I had a GP call today and they had no idea what to offer; have to wonder why this is so difficult for the NHS to understand.  Maybe we need to set something up for people who have both personality disorder and autism?

I have a work ethic which I cannot change.  I do also love my work as a lived experience researcher as this is my way of making things better but without shouting.  Got to jump into bed now so that I can catch the sunrise tomorrow.  Thank you.

Makes complete sense to me - we need a formulation approach.  We might appear competent, we can dress well for appointments (I even do this for phone calls)...but there is no understanding and perhaps a fear of incompetency on behalf of those in positions of power, by which I mean MH and particularly psychiatry.  It is such a shame. 

yes, good idea

i agree :)

Wrennie said:

It's quite hard as I work 10-12 hours a day, 6 days a week and my one day off is usually due to exhaustion, or doing something 'daft' to cope, so I spend it in my PJ's.

Unless you absolutely jump out of bed with joy and enthusiasm to this work everyday then I would say it is one of the major obstacles in any healing or progress. If not, then this is self-abuse and cannot last long-term.   

In my experience, most therapists are clueless about autism. I've been told by therapists "but you don't look autistic!" and that I'm smart enough to be able to mask and should try harder, and also one who said that autism is "extremely rare" in women... and another who openly admitted that she doesn't know anything about autism and has never met an autistic person before. I have a friend who is also high-functioning autistic, and her therapist told her that because she is high-functioning, her autism isn't a disability but more of a "difference" that makes her "special"... she was not impressed.

Also, most therapists refuse to work with borderlines due to the unfair stigma attached to the disorder.