Most people aren't straightforward. I can't tell if others actually do or not. And I can't do much about it.
Good Relationships take investing into: time+resources. Acquaintances are time consuming and it's better to work on protecting that investment with a few good ones and using codes of politeness with everyone else. My rule is always find aesthetics and character qualities I like (I believe we're naturally drawn to our own inner nature and possible best self). And never be the first to take offence, there's always another perspective, but some of us NDs naturally examine too many outcomes anyway.
What kind of friendships do you want? What sort of humans are you drawn to? I feel rewarded when my friends call me reliable and trustworthy. But I've had many individuals misinterpret me & I've waited a few years for that email to come in saying "I misread you, sorry". Set your standards for friends you'd like to choose by becoming that and allow others to like or dislike at whim. Make a note of what you don't like. Much can be said about creating aesthetic for the world around - whether it's through interesting thought or interesting clothes. This can be inherently creative and purposeful. Considerate and interesting humans have something to bring everywhere they go and people will be attracted to that, even if they find us occasionally eccentric and odd.
Most people aren't straightforward. I can't tell if others actually do or not. And I can't do much about it.
Good Relationships take investing into: time+resources. Acquaintances are time consuming and it's better to work on protecting that investment with a few good ones and using codes of politeness with everyone else. My rule is always find aesthetics and character qualities I like (I believe we're naturally drawn to our own inner nature and possible best self). And never be the first to take offence, there's always another perspective, but some of us NDs naturally examine too many outcomes anyway.
What kind of friendships do you want? What sort of humans are you drawn to? I feel rewarded when my friends call me reliable and trustworthy. But I've had many individuals misinterpret me & I've waited a few years for that email to come in saying "I misread you, sorry". Set your standards for friends you'd like to choose by becoming that and allow others to like or dislike at whim. Make a note of what you don't like. Much can be said about creating aesthetic for the world around - whether it's through interesting thought or interesting clothes. This can be inherently creative and purposeful. Considerate and interesting humans have something to bring everywhere they go and people will be attracted to that, even if they find us occasionally eccentric and odd.
