How to tell if someone dislikes you for you, or for your autism?

Lots of people dislike me for my autism - they find me childish and "cringey". From my experience, the types of people who are ok with autism are people who are kind, open-minded, and authentic. Snobs on the other hand don't like it.

JuniperFromGallifrey said:

"thank you for ghosting me!

Yes - they don't realise what a weight-off that is - I'll happily play along with that game - rt's much less stress.     Feel free to make contact again when you grow up......   ....

Most people aren't straightforward. I can't tell if others actually do or not. And I can't do much about it.

Good Relationships take investing into: time+resources. Acquaintances are time consuming and it's better to work on protecting that investment with a few good ones and using codes of politeness with everyone else. My rule is always find aesthetics and character qualities I like (I believe we're naturally drawn to our own inner nature and possible best self). And never be the first to take offence, there's always another perspective, but some of us NDs naturally examine too many outcomes anyway.

What kind of friendships do you want? What sort of humans are you drawn to? I feel rewarded when my friends call me reliable and trustworthy. But I've had many individuals misinterpret me & I've waited a few years for that email to come in saying "I misread you, sorry". Set your standards for friends you'd like to choose by becoming that and allow others to like or dislike at whim. Make a note of what you don't like. Much can be said about creating aesthetic for the world around - whether it's through interesting thought or interesting clothes. This can be inherently creative and purposeful. Considerate and interesting humans have something to bring everywhere they go and people will be attracted to that, even if they find us occasionally eccentric and odd. 

Ugh exactly. My mother, sadly. And a few very short lived relationships. 

I don't know why these humans LOVE this pathological dance. The exchange of guilt and debt and power. They're actually being Coded to live this way and create jobs for therapists.

Me now: "thank you for ghosting me! I'll just check out and breathe a little better - maybe meet you back at this point when or if you work out how unenjoyable this neuro-normative behaviour is for everyone."

My narcissistic sister HATES my autism.    It makes me unpredictable (in her eyes) because I won't partake in her psychotic games.        I'm too logical for her - she feeds on drama so tries to create it all the time.      Unfortunately for her, I allow her to set the rules and then I'll live by those rules - cutting me off for a year or two? - ok - saves me having to bother.